When a guy likes you, he wants to talk to you. He wants to see you and text you. Except for this guy. This guy sends you back-to-back snaps, but never asks for your number, and shows no interest in taking things further. So, what’s the deal?
Snapchat is known for being temporary. Stories only stay up for so long, and messages aren’t saved forever. Most people assume this means that he wants to keep things temporary. While that is one of the reasons, there are plenty of more reasons he doesn’t want to text you.
- 1 What Does It Mean When A Guy Only Snapchats You?
- 1.1 1. You’re temporary
- 1.2 2. He loves Snapchat
- 1.3 3. He doesn’t like to text
- 1.4 4. You’re a side chic
- 1.5 5. He orbits people
- 1.6 6. He’s banking on his looks
- 1.7 7. He’s keeping you as an option
- 1.8 8. He doesn’t want to be serious
- 1.9 9. They’re socially awkward
- 1.10 10. He’s younger
- 1.11 11. Snapchat is more fun
- 1.12 12. You can pin conversations
- 1.13 13. He likes pictures of you
- 1.14 14. It is immediate
- 1.15 15. It’s an all in one app that they already use all the time
- 2 FAQs
- 3 On A Final Note,
What Does It Mean When A Guy Only Snapchats You?
1. You’re temporary
You might, in fact, be temporary in his eyes. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t have a chance at being permanent. It means that right now, he doesn’t know if you’re going to be a permanent part of his life.
If the two of you just started talking, and haven’t even met yet, give it some time. As time goes on, he’ll get to know you more. Then, he’ll decide if he wants even more time with you or not. After you’ve been chatting on Snapchat for some time, mention texting and see what his reaction is. His reaction will tell you everything that is going through his mind.
2. He loves Snapchat
Some people really have fun with the app. It’s their preferred social media app. They enjoy playing with the filters. They know when you save messages, so they already have a heads up if you’re going to expose them. Sometimes, a guy just loves Snapchat. If that’s what they enjoy, of course, they’ll want to share it with you!
To double-check on this one, ask him if he has another social media app. Mention that you love such and such about Facebook, and see what his response is. If he says that he loves something about another app, he obviously uses it.
3. He doesn’t like to text
Some people really don’t like to text. This could be because they’ve been exposed in the past, or maybe they have a phone plan that charges per text. Whatever the reason, he might prefer Snapchat over texting. Common reasons include:
- It’s immediate
- You don’t miss out on conversations
- It’s fun
- It’s the preferred app among a certain age group
However, it is rare for a person to never text someone back. If he seems shady, try texting him on his phone and watch for other red flags that he’s got a girlfriend to avoid becoming his side piece.
4. You’re a side chic
If he’s got a girlfriend, he won’t want her to find out about you and vice versa. It’s a lot easier to hide things on Snapchat than it is with texting. He can log out of the app, hide the app so she can’t see it, and turn off notifications for the app so that she doesn’t know when you send him a snap. Guys that cheat on their girlfriends already know all of the above.
5. He orbits people
Orbiting people has been happening for years, but the consistent use of social media makes it that much easier now. Orbiting is one of the newest dating trends, but it’s not nearly as cool as it sounds. It’s when people use social media apps, like Snapchat, to keep you in their orbit.
Typically, you may go on a date or three with them. Then, they suddenly aren’t interested. You may or may not talk to them, but regardless they are always the first ones to see what you have going on. They watch your stories, etc. It’s much easier if you’re already friends with someone.
6. He’s banking on his looks
Sending a snap always involves a picture! This can be fun because you get to use the latest filters, but it could be because he knows that he will look good enough to make you swoon. If he’s got a relatively high level of self-confidence and thinks at least one of his biggest attributes is his appearance, he’ll prefer an app like Snapchat or Instagram.
Keep an eye out for narcissistic traits or signs of low self-esteem with this guy. This might be his way of showing off. On the other end of the spectrum, it may be his way of fishing for compliments because he has high attention needs, expresses attention-seeking behavior, or simply may want more validation.
7. He’s keeping you as an option
A guy will often talk to multiple people at one time as a way to keep his options open. If he’s put you in Snapchat purgatory, he’s keeping you in limbo for a reason. This could be because he is trying to decide between you and someone else. He might be playing the field because he doesn’t want anything serious, too.
If you want to know whether this is what’s going on, the best way to find out is to ask him. If you aren’t as bold as to ask specifically if he’s simply keeping you as an option, rephrase the question. Ask him what he’s looking for instead. This is a way to ask a commonly asked question and a way for you to find out whether he’s playing the field.
8. He doesn’t want to be serious
Speaking of not wanting anything serious, this is why he isn’t texting you. When you move from sending a snap to texting, it’s more than just communicating in a different way. It signals something a little more serious. Texting symbolizes that the two of you are going somewhere, or at least have the potential to.
When someone is socially awkward, they aren’t someone that wants to talk on the phone all day. It’s easier and less awkward to send a quick snap. As a bonus, they know if they say something dumb the snap will be deleted soon. It’s not going to hang around forever for them to read again, analyze what they said wrong, etc.
10. He’s younger
Younger people tend to prefer an app like Snapchat when talking to other people. They aren’t a huge fan of sending a text, either. Instead, they rely on social media, like Snapchat or another one, to communicate with people. This is normal for younger people. If you’re not comfortable with that, consider having a conversation with them about it.
11. Snapchat is more fun
In general, it’s more fun to use Snapchat than it is texting for most people. Texting is similar to typing out an email. Snapchat is the equivalent of a spontaneous meetup, but your text. It has more appeal to it, hence why there are so many users on Snapchat.
12. You can pin conversations
When your inbox on your phone is full of spam messages from the last person that had that phone number, subscriptions, etc. it can be easy to miss a text message. This is especially true if you have over fifty unread messages in your inbox at any given time. Snapchat has a cool feature that lets you pin conversations to the top. This ensures that you never miss their text when it’s on Snapchat.
13. He likes pictures of you
If he requests pictures, etc. instead of using Snapchat to text you, he may like getting pictures of you throughout the day. When you can’t see someone all the time, you start to miss their smile or want to know how their hair is done. If you haven’t met him yet, this one doesn’t apply. He’s probably sticking to Snapchat for other reasons.
14. It is immediate
Some people are known for forgetting to text back (myself included.) They are busy almost non-stop, sit their phone down with the intent of replying, and then forget to. Snapchat doesn’t give you that option because a snap will disappear after so long. This can help people that are known for forgetting to respond send a Snapchat back sooner.
15. It’s an all in one app that they already use all the time
Snapchat is much more than just fun filters for snapchats and messages. It also offers news, games, quizzes, and more. It can connect you to people that are already saved on your phone so you’re instantly able to follow people you like. Snapchat offers a lot of features that help someone stay connected to both those that they know, and those that they like.
Because of that, it only makes sense that if a person uses Snapchat for so many other things, they would use it for messaging as well. Once you get used to using Snapchat for everything, including texting people, it will feel weird to switch to another app.
It means you’re temporary. He either doesn’t like you enough or doesn’t know you well enough to want you to be permanent in his life. He doesn’t want his current girlfriend to find out, and Snapchat makes hiding you easier. He isn’t comfortable with other forms of communication.
He’s orbiting you. Guys do this long after you’ve stopped talking to you because they can’t let go. There’s something about you that still has them interested. Guys do this even if they don’t want to be with you. Shy ones will do this before even speaking to you. They’re working up their nerve.
He responds but doesn’t try to get to know you. He doesn’t ask you questions. He might reply back in short answers. Those replies can take a while to come back if he’s not interested in you, too. Typically, this guy will not want to initiate texting, even through Snapchat.
Over Snapchat or texting in any way, he’ll initiate conversations with you. Guys make time and go out of their way for things that they want. He’ll make an effort to get to know you too. When a guy likes you, he’ll want to see more of you, and he will send you pictures.
Men that like you will text daily. If not daily, you should hear from them every other day. Guys that are scared they will appear needy or desperate will only text every other day to make sure that they don’t give you the wrong impression.
On A Final Note,
Have you ever had to decipher why a guy will only text or talk to you on Snapchat? What have your experiences been?
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.