Have you ever caught a guy staring at you? Sometimes it’s that mesmerizing look that instantly hypnotizes you and gives you butterflies in your stomach. Other times, you’re left wondering if you have lettuce stuck in your teeth. If you noticed someone you’re around a lot staring at you daily or just noticed a guy across the room staring at you and looked it up, it’s time to decipher his intentions.
I’ve had quite a few guys stare at me before. Some were sexually attracted to me. Others liked one thing in particular or were intrigued by me and wanted to get to know me. By now, I’ve come up with quite a few methods to tell what a man wants when he’s staring at me.
- 1 He’s Staring Through You
- 2 He Is Attracted To You Sexually
- 3 He’s Interested In You
- 4 Your Guy Friend Is Insecure
- 5 Men Are Visual Creatures
- 6 He’s Trying To Read You
- 7 You’re The Love Of His Life
- 8 FAQs
- 9 In A Nutshell
He’s Staring Through You
A guy might appear to be staring at you, but his gaze could be going through you. It’s common for people to do this when they are daydreaming or lost in thought. They don’t even realize that they are staring at you. Look for signs that he’s not intentionally looking at you before reading too deeply into his gaze.
His Eyes Don’t Follow You
If he’s looking through you, his gaze more than likely won’t change if you do. Get up, go to the restroom, and see if he continues to glance in your direction. If he doesn’t look away from the same direction, he wasn’t flirting with you.
When people daydream for a longer period of time, their eyes tend to look a little bit glazed over and unfocused. Casually look at him from the corner of your eye to see if he is lost in his thoughts or checking you out.
No Eye Contact
If he’s staring towards you, but it has nothing to do with you, he won’t make eye contact. Men that are attracted attempt to make eye contact with women. To test this, simply look towards him. If his gaze moves to meet yours, he’s not staring through you.
Consider The Background
If something cool is going on behind you, it’s normal for a guy to check it out. Glance over your shoulder to see if there is a street performer on the other side of the window or a person behind you that he could be looking at. It’s common to think someone is looking at you even though they are actually looking behind you.
He Is Attracted To You Sexually
If a guy is obviously staring at you, he could be attracted to you. Staring is a guy’s method of checking out the package, and determining if they want to make a move. It’s also how men tell if you’re interested back. For example, if you catch him staring and turn away from him, it’s a sign that you’re not interested back. Watch for other signs that he’s attracted to you to figure out what he’s thinking.
Men move a certain way when they are attracted to a woman. Most of them do not even realize that they are doing it. It makes it even easier for us women to tell if they are interested in us, though. Watch out for these things that guys will subconsciously do.
When a guy is attracted to you sexually, he will spread his legs. It might be because he needs a little bit more room, or because he doesn’t realize that he’s doing it. Men also do this to show off the goods, so to speak. If you let your eyes wander a bit, it shows him that you’re interested in something too.
The dominant stance is how a man shows off his fertility. He’ll square his shoulders and stick his chest out. He’ll also stand up nice and tall. When guys take this stance, it is almost always to show dominance. If a guy does this while he’s staring at a woman, he’s definitely sexually attracted to you.
Watch His Gaze
When a man is sexually attracted to a woman, he won’t just look into her eyes, he’ll take the time to enjoy the entire package. This might seem a bit forward, but most guys won’t do this unless they think you are interested in the same thing. If you’re making eye contact and his eyes travel to his favorite asset, it’s a definite sign that he’s sexually attracted to you.
These other signs that he’s sexually attracted to you could also help you figure out what he’s thinking.
He’s Interested In You
This isn’t to say that he isn’t attracted to you sexually, but maybe he’s more interested in getting to know you first. If a man is interested in talking to you or getting to know you versus a booty call, he’ll show these signs.
He Admires Your Beauty
He could be appreciating the way that you dress or your hairstyle. Whatever the reason, he’ll let his eyes wander, but not in a sexual manner. Pay attention to where his gaze goes to determine what he’s interested in. If he admires your beauty, he’s more interested in dating than he is a one night stand.
When a guy is into something, he’ll raise his eyebrows while making eye contact. If he raises his eyebrows slightly, he’s showing you that he’s interested and giving you the opportunity to show that you’re interested back. It’s his way to make sure that you like him before making the first move.
Guys will also show that they’re interested in flashing you a gorgeous smile. If you look at him and he suddenly grins ear to ear, you can trust that he’s interested. If he’s not displaying the same body language that shows a guy is sexually attracted, he might be more interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.
Open Body Language
When a guy moves his body a specific way, it’s how he shows that he’s available. Open body language includes:
- Arms uncrossed
- Leaning back
- Spread legs
- Palms open
This can be either a sign of availability or a sign of interest. When it’s coupled with eye contact, it’s because he’s interested.
Your Guy Friend Is Insecure
If you catch a guy staring, it’s normal to assume that he’s interested, but that isn’t always the case. When a person is insecure, they are more likely to stare at other people. They are mentally comparing themselves to others to make sure that they are acting the same way. How do you know if it’s because he’s insecure, though?
No Eye Contact
Insecure people also don’t usually like eye contact. If he’s staring but refuses to meet your gaze, he’s either really shy or insecure. Check out the other symptoms that an insecure guy will show to see which one it is.
Tucked chin, Slouching
When a person feels insecure, they subconsciously try to make themselves small. Most people don’t even realize that they’re doing this. Instead of the confident movements that a man will show when he’s interested, like sticking out his chest, you’ll get the opposite. His gaze will be downward and his head will tilt slightly downwards. Most insecure people also slouch when they sit. It might be hard to get a good look at his face, too.
Men that feel insecure usually act a bit nervous around women that they like. Instead of paying attention to his face, watch his actions. He’ll fidget more, bite his nails, bite his lip, or may sweat. When you’re nervous or uncomfortable, it increases your heart rate and blood pressure, leading to things like sweating or a flushed face.
Hiding Their Hands
When men or women are feeling insecure, they usually don’t know what to do with their hands. This includes when someone takes pictures or even when they are simply sitting there. Because of this, they try to find something to do with them, like crossing their arms or tucking them in between their legs.
Men Are Visual Creatures
If he’s not insecure, you can trust that he’s staring because he simply likes the way you look. Men stare at women in public and at home because they feel a sense of attraction to something about them. It could be anything from your long legs and gorgeous eyes to the way you get a twinkle in your eyes when you laugh. If you catch him staring and you don’t know him, chances are that he likes something about you.
He’s Trying To Read You
Sometimes, a man has already decided he might like you, moved past the physical attraction phase, and is now trying to read you. The only thing going through his mind is wondering what you’re like. He might want to see how you react to certain things in a conversation so that he can silently judge your behavior while determining if he wants to make a move. Certain zodiac signs are known for these thoughts going through their mind before they approach a girl. They want to make sure that you’re the one for them before they make a move.
You’re The Love Of His Life
When a guy has strong feelings for his girlfriend or wife, he might stare at you, and it’s not a bad thing. Thoughts going through his mind could include how amazing you are, how you’re the one for him, or how happy he is that you are a part of his life. If you’re on his mind, he might stare at you without even realizing that he’s doing it. If it makes you uncomfortable, just tell him.
He’s thinking about how attractive you are or wants to make sure that he wants to make a move before he does. If you’re in a relationship, he’s thinking about how you’re the one for him.
This act is seen as an invitation. If he’s the one staring, invite him to make the first move by meeting his gaze and giving him a small smile. This one thing is all it takes if you like a guy and you’re already on his mind.
This could mean a few things. Usually, he’s nervous and embarrassed that you caught him looking at you. It could also mean he’s shy and not one to make the first move.
Figuring out this part of male behavior can be confusing. He is more than likely just staring off into space with nothing going through his mind. Don’t read too much into this.
Pay attention to the way that they act, such as if they part their legs, how they look at you, and where they look. Guys that are attracted to women always show it one way or another through their behavior.
In A Nutshell
Trying to decipher why he’s gazing your way could mean a number of things. He could be interested, lost in thought about work, or thinking about how you’re perfect.
Have you ever had to determine why a man is staring at you? What tips would you give to women in that situation?
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn’t an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.