You have been dating this guy for a while, you get on really well, he makes you laugh and you thought that things were heading somewhere serious. However, just as you were ready to commit to him, he chooses someone else over you. This situation can leave you heartbroken and make you wonder what you did wrong.
In any situation such as this, it is important that you do not blame yourself. Remember that this guy should have treated you with more respect than to lead you on but then leave you for someone else. You are better off without this guy and you should pick yourself on and look forward to better things and someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.
You were falling in love with this guy, on for him to choose someone else over you. Perhaps he had recently been out of a breakup and he left you to get back with his ex and you realized that your relationship was just a rebound after all. No matter how hard it is, remind yourself that this is not a reflection of you, but rather his character.
Keep reading to find out more about what you should do when he chooses someone else over you.
- 1 What Should You Do When He Chooses Her Over You?
- 1.1 1. Allow yourself to cry
- 1.2 2. Talk to someone
- 1.3 3. Remind yourself that you are worthy
- 1.4 4. Enjoy the freedom
- 1.5 5. Cut him out of your life
- 1.6 6. Remind yourself that you did nothing wrong
- 1.7 7. Don’t take the blame
- 1.8 8. Forgive him
- 1.9 9. Love yourself
- 1.10 10. Don’t depend on other people
- 1.11 11. Don’t blame her
- 1.12 12. Remember you are better off without him
- 1.13 13. Focus on your passions
- 1.14 14. Don’t look for revenge
- 1.15 15. Let go
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Sum Up…
What Should You Do When He Chooses Her Over You?
You were confident that things were moving forward and you were ready to commit to a serious relationship with this person. However, it is now clear that your feelings were unrequited and he didn’t feel the same way as you did. It is easy to start wondering about whether you were good enough for him or whether you will ever be good enough for someone
You may even start to wonder whether this woman is better than you and why you were not good enough for him. However, it is important to stop this train of thoughts, he is gone, you are better off without him anyway and you need to move on. While it is important to grieve and take time to get what you thought you had, it is important to move on from him.
Know that you will find someone better than him who will treat you better. When you are in a relationship, you should feel secure and confident with the other person.
You should never have to worry about them leaving you because he chose someone else because you are sure about how they feel for you. Don’t give this guy anymore thought, and instead work on moving on from him.
1. Allow yourself to cry
One thing to remember if your partner chooses another person, it is important to allow yourself to cry and grieve. Even if this person wasn’t meant for you, it is upsetting to be left by someone. You will feel much better if you allow yourself to cry and let out your emotions rather than keeping things bottled inside. Allow yourself to cry and be upset.
2. Talk to someone
Even if you may not be in the mood to talk to someone after this has happened to you, make sure that you do not deal with this situation alone. Talk to your closest friend or family member, someone who you know you can talk to without feeling judged. Talking to someone will help your problems feel smaller and they will likely help you to feel better straight away.
3. Remind yourself that you are worthy
“He left me for someone else, he chose her over me, I was not good enough for him.” If he leaves you for another person, it is not a sign that you were not worthy of him. Rather it is a reflection of his poor character. Remind yourself that you are worthy, think about all of the qualities that you love in yourself that he will be missing out on.
4. Enjoy the freedom
If he has left you for another girl, allow yourself to cry and heal, but then enjoy the freedom that it brings. You are no longer tied to this person and you are free to find someone who will treat you much better than he ever did. Take it as a positive that you found out who this person truly was. Plan to do things that you love but haven’t done in a while.
5. Cut him out of your life
It is obvious that this guy is not a positive addition to your life, make sure to cut him out of your life if he has chosen someone other than you. Delete his number and remove him as your friend on social media. You do not need reminders of his negativity on your daily feeds. Allow yourself to completely move on by cutting him out of your life.
6. Remind yourself that you did nothing wrong
If he chooses another over you, it is not a sign that you did something wrong. Remind yourself of this any time you resort to telling yourself off for losing him. He was not worthy of you and you are better off without him in your life. It was not your actions or fault that caused him to leave, but rather his negative personality traits and character.
7. Don’t take the blame
If he tries to blame the break upon you, don’t take the blame. You did nothing wrong in this situation and you shouldn’t be made to feel like you did something wrong. Forgive yourself of anything that may be on your mind and move on. Remember that he chose someone other than you for his own negative reasons.
8. Forgive him
It is also important to forgive him too, don’t hold any resentment toward him inside of you, he’s not worth it anyway. He likely did not know what he was doing, he didn’t know better and he didn’t realize what he was losing when he walked away from you. Don’t hold grudges against him or remain angry at him as you will only negatively affect yourself.
9. Love yourself
If he chooses another, it is not a reflection of you. Take time to love yourself. It is important to remember that you can never love another if you cannot truly love yourself. Take this time as a single person to really learn to love yourself. Heal any issues that you may have so that you will enter any new relationship in a positive manner.
10. Don’t depend on other people
It is important to learn to love yourself, to learn how to be independent, and to depend on yourself. You should not have to depend on other people for your own happiness. No matter what other people do in your life, you should be happy alone. Take care of yourself and find happiness within yourself rather than in other people.
11. Don’t blame her
If he chooses another girl, it is important not to blame her either. Building up resentment and hatred inside of you will only bring more negativity. Let go of any grudges you may be holding.
12. Remember you are better off without him
This situation may have led you to realize that you weren’t in fact happy when you are with him. Remind yourself that you are better off without him.
13. Focus on your passions
Take this time to focus on your passions and interests. Take this opportunity to do something you like to do. You may have lost sight of the things you love to do. Have fun and do the things that you love.
14. Don’t look for revenge
Something that you should avoid even though you may not like it, is to avoid taking revenge on the girl he left you for. It is better to find a way to move on.
15. Let go
Grieve what you have lost for a whole and then let go of everything that you may be feeling. These things no longer serve you so just let them go.
If a guy chooses to get back with his ex and leaves you for her, it is important that you do not take it personally, no matter how hard this may be. It is obvious that you are better off without him and you deserve someone who is completely committed to you and no one else. This guy was not the person you fell in love with, so allow yourself to move on.
If he is into someone other than you, it is likely that he is not completely focused on you and your relationship together. If his attention seems like it is somewhere else when you are talking to him, it may be a sign that he is thinking about another person. However, make sure that you know this for sure before you make any assumptions or say something you may regret.
If you are left for someone else it is important to take care of yourself and allow yourself time to heal. There is no worse feeling than being left by someone, but it is important that you do not take this personally or take it as a reflection for you. You are good enough and it is clear that this person was not good enough for you. Look forward to better things.
If he is interested in someone else and you know this for a fact, it is time to walk away. You should not have to prove yourself to someone. If they are not committed to you completely then they are not worthy of your love. Make it clear to him that if he does not commit to you then things are over between you and if he cannot promise this, then walk away.
If someone is losing interest in you they will likely make less of an effort to spend time with you. If someone is into you, they will do everything to make you feel happy and secure in your relationship. If you feel like he is losing interest in you, he probably is. Make it clear that if this doesn’t change you will walk away and look for someone that makes an effort.
To Sum Up…
There is likely no worse feeling than to be left by someone for another person.
However, it is vital that you do not take this situation personally as it is a reflection of him rather than you. Take time to heal but know that he was not worthy of you and that you deserve someone who will commit to you completely. You should never have to worry about your partner leaving you for another person.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.