Although men like to believe that women are the complicated ones, a lot of the time they speak in riddles or don’t actually vocally say how they feel or what they mean. This is definitely the case when it comes to the apparently selfless and loving ‘I want you to be happy’ sentence.
As soon as you hear, “I want you to be happy” the cogs in your mind start to spin, as any woman’s do, and you start to try and decode what he means. Obviously, it depends on what kind of way this man has said this to you, but this sentence is dangerous as it really can mean anything.
Don’t worry though, we’ve got your back and we can figure it out together. In this article, we’re going to take a look at the 4 possible meanings behind when a man says this to you, so hopefully, you’ll be able to identify what’s happening in your specific situation.
What Is He Trying To Say?
1. He Genuinely Wants You To Be Happy
One of the most important things we need to address the fact that not everything a man says is a lie or has a different meaning. So, someone that’s telling you they want you to be happy could be telling you that because they do genuinely want you to be happy.
Is he saying this whilst doing a selfless deed to help you out? Is he declaring his love for you? Or perhaps he’s checking your opinion on something before he goes ahead and does it?
If this is the kind of situation where this sentence is spoken, this man is probably being transparent and holds your happiness in very high regard. With these kinds of people, you don’t need to question, “does he want to be with me?” – just try to believe it and be happy, it could be love!
2. He’s Not Listening To You
Some people, unfortunately, like to use this sentence because they think it gets them off the hook, especially when it comes to actually listening to you or giving you an answer on something.
If you are trying to discuss something with this man or you’re bringing something up that makes you feel uncomfortable, he might use the “I just want you to be happy” because in reality he has completely zoned out and is ignoring everything you say.
Guys think that this one works because unfortunately some women get bowled over by this very basic, bare minimum type of kindness. If your man uses this sentence in confrontation or when you’re trying to tell him something important, he’s probably switched off. No one deserves to be ignored in their relationships.
3. He’s Manipulating You
Someone might be using the sentence because they are trying to make you believe that everything that they do is within your best interest. However, this person could be taking advantage of you and manipulating you.
If the man that’s saying this to you treats you badly, knocks your self-esteem, verbally or physically abuses you, and then says “I want you to be happy” absolutely do not believe him. Your answer is – he doesn’t want you to be happy, he wants to keep you manipulated.
This is a really simple way that someone can manipulate you, by trying to make you feel like everything they do, even if negative, is all for your benefit. Gain your strength and realize that this man and the relationship with him is toxic, and get out of there.
4. He’s Leaving You
Unfortunately, one of the most common times when this sentence is heard is when a man is breaking up with his partner or wants to break up. If you’ve come to the end of your relationship, your man might be saying this because he genuinely believes breaking up with you will bring you happiness, or he’s trying to ease your pain.
Depending on the context, it could mean pretty much anything when a man says he wants you to be happy, but the main four meanings we have covered in this article. He might genuinely want you to be happy (which is hopefully the case), but he might also not be listening to you, could be manipulating you, or might be leaving you.
It depends in what context a man says this in, but typically, a man will not say that he wants you if he doesn’t want you. However, the word ‘want’ is mainly associated with sex, and therefore this guy might just want to be sexually intimate with you.
You’ll know a man is serious about you if he dedicates his time to see you, spend time with you and really get to know you. A guy that’s serious will also normally want to take everything quite slowly, and learn about you first and impress you first, before trying to move forward and doing anything more serious.
Unfortunately, there’s no test that you can do to see whether a man really loves you or not. However, you can see how often he dedicates his time to you, how much he remembers from your previous conversations, how he speaks about the future, and how he acts around you.
A man that sees a future with you will talk about the future, with you in it. So, any time a man you think’s interested in you talks about his future plans, just see if you are included in them. If he uses ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ he sees you right there by his side in the future.
On A Final Note
Hopefully, this article has helped you to decode and understand what it can mean when a man says he wants you to be happy. Remember, whatever he really means by it and regardless of the way he feels about you, you do deserve to be happy and you should want yourself to be happy, in life, and love, so make sure you are.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.