One-night stands are irreplaceable! There is nothing quite like letting that built up stress out while having a fun night with a person you enjoy.
Following that one night stand, most of us women are left wondering what they should do. They’ve been gone for hours, but should we text the guy? Wait on him to initiate contact? Or avoid him altogether?
I’ve had my fair share of one night stands. Most of them were wonderful experiences. In the beginning, I was clueless, left wondering whether I should text. As time went on, I learned a few tricks that will help you crack the code on what you should do after your one-night stand.
- 1 What Guys Think After A One Night Stand
- 2 Should I Text A Guy After A One Night Stand?
- 3 What To Text A Guy After A One Night Stand?
- 4 How To Ask A Guy To Hook Up Again
- 5 FAQs
- 6 On That Note,
What Guys Think After A One Night Stand
If you want to know how you should communicate with a guy following your one-night stand, it’s important that you understand their thoughts.
According to this article, guys are analyzing the night. It’s slightly harsh, but they’re deciding whether they want to see you for round two, how great the sex was (or wasn’t), and they might be hoping that you don’t think it will lead to a “thing”. On the plus side, they might be wondering if you want to see them because they like you.
Should I Text A Guy After A One Night Stand?
Now that you know his thoughts, it’s time for some thoughts of your own. Before deciding how to message him, you need to decide if you really want to. There are things you should consider before picking up your phone.
1. Do You Want To See Him?
Sometimes, you feel obligated to text a guy when he spends the night. That doesn’t mean that you should. Instead of instantly dialing his number, take some time in deciding if you want future contact.
Was the sex good? Do you like him? Is he capable of a good conversation? Are you satisfied and comfortable with him? Those are the types of things that you should be asking yourself to decide if you will text him.
2. Make Sure You’re On The Same Page
Even if you like him, that doesn’t mean that he likes you. One of you could be ready for a relationship or have feelings while the other one is running away from love and wants a hookup. Think back to previous conversations. Remember what the night was like. If you’re not on the same page, it’s best that you part ways. If you don’t know, there is no harm in sending a text to find out!
What To Text A Guy After A One Night Stand?
If you’ve put some thought into it and still want to make contact after a one night stand, it’s important that you go do it the right way. You shouldn’t come off needy or desperate. You should make your intentions clear so you do not send mixed signals. If you do it the right way, you might get the response you want.
3. Don’t Text The Next Morning
If he just left the house, it’s too early for sending that text. Wait until that night, at the earliest. If you can control yourself, wait one day or two. This gives him the chance to text you first. Plus, it guarantees that you won’t look needy or clingy.
4. Keep Your End Game In Mind
If you want casual sex that calls for different texts than when you want a relationship. For sex, text him that you love what he did in the bedroom, like the way he gave you a back rub first or that thing he did with his tongue.
For relationships, you shoud not send that text regarding sex. Instead, tell him things you like about him outside of the bedroom, like the way he smiles or how great it is the two of you have so much in common.
5. End With An Invitation
Regardless of your end game, you should end the conversation with an invitation. If you’re interested in a relationship, this should be something the two of you could be doing that does not involve sex. For example, you could go hiking, or out for dinner.
If you’re interested in future one-night stands that will be toe-curling like the last one night stand, you shouldn’t move into “getting to know him” territory. Instead, tell him how wonderful he was, or how he definitely knows how to please a woman. Then, you can end it with that quick “I’d love to do it again sometime.”
6. Prepare For The Possibility Of Being Ignored
This is a hard one to accept, but there’s a 50/50 chance that you’ll get a response. Some guys look at a one night stand as just that. It’s fun with a woman for one night. They have no desire in turning a one-night stand into regular sex with one girl, or into anything more than one night with a girl. If that’s the case, you won’t hear back.
On the other hand, there are plenty of men that would happily turn a one-night stand into that friends with benefits situation. If that’s the way that it’s headed, he’ll send you a message back that he’d love seeing you.
How To Ask A Guy To Hook Up Again
Now that you’ve established that he’s down for some fun in the sheets, you need to learn how you should initiate that when you’re in the mood. There are several ways that you can do this. The first one is being bold or straight forward. Tell him you’re in the mood. See if he’s busy. Most men will prefer bluntness.
If that’s not your style, send him a sexy picture instead. If he responds by saying how much he wants you, that’s your opportunity. Ask him when you can see him again. He should respond back with a day. Asking a guy to hit the sheets with you is pretty simple. The more often you do it, the more comfortable you’ll become with it.
Three days. If he doesn’t send you a message within three days, it’s okay to send him one. The three-day rule ensures you don’t look needy, and it gives him more time to think about how great you were. If you can’t wait three days, give it at least two.
You talk to someone casually, just like you would if nothing happened. Try to pretend as nothing happened if you must. A little harmless flirting is okay, but not necessary. A great way to do this is to imagine that they’re someone else, like your best friend, so that you feel less awkward.
His actions will tell you everything. If a guy likes you after a one night stand, he’ll text you or call you first. He might mention you calling him when you get home so he knows that you made it safely. He’ll also start touching you more.
Text him a short message stating that you had a great time. Point out something that you liked about him or something he did. Then, you can end it by saying you’d love to see him again if you want to hook up again.
Don’t be needy. If you can, follow the three-day rule of not messaging him for three days. Then, play hard to get a little bit. Be mysterious, keep him guessing, and, whatever you do, don’t chase him. If he wants you, he’ll have to chase you.
On That Note,
If you’ve ever found yourself in this situation, how did you handle it? Did you message him first or follow the three-day rule?
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn’t an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.