Ever been called a tease by a guy but not 100% sure why he put that “tag” on you? Perhaps, you are just innocently having fun and being free without any intentions of having sex with him, yet he takes it the wrong way. Now, you can't seem to wrap your head around why he suddenly doesn't want to be close friends anymore.
Without mincing words, when a guy says you are teasing him, it basically means that you are intentionally leading him on. I'm going to give it to you straight; it's hard for men to measure success in their relationships without the sex factor. They want it fast, they want it quick, and they want it almost immediately. I know it's crazy but that's how many guys are wired.
Even if you just met a guy today, that doesn't stop him from hoping for or wanting sex. He will feel comfortable with the idea even if you don’t talk much. So, it shouldn't surprise you when a guy accuses you of leading him on when you are just being friendly or maybe a little too friendly. That said, here are the possible meanings a guy could call you a tease.
- 1 What It Means When A Guy Calls You A Tease
- 1.1 1. You may have allowed a build-up of sexual tension between you both
- 1.2 2. You dress sexy as hell when you meet
- 1.3 3. You've been sending “dirty texts or talking dirty”
- 1.4 4. You left him with blue-balls last time and every other time you meet
- 1.5 5. You turned him down
- 1.6 6. He’s impatient
- 1.7 7. You've been making plans and canceling at the last minute
- 1.8 8. He’s into you
- 1.9 9. You “friend zone” him every time he makes a move
- 1.10 10. Maybe you are a tease
- 1.11 11. Many guys are always around you
- 2 FAQs
- 3 In Summary
What It Means When A Guy Calls You A Tease
1. You may have allowed a build-up of sexual tension between you both
Whether it's deliberate or not, one of the reasons a guy will call you a tease is because there's sexual tension between you both that seems not to be graduating anywhere. In the dating world, allowing the build-up of such tension is a strategy women use to get a guy more interested in them.
You know some men may naturally take a hike once they get to the “cookie” too quickly. What's more, they may even tag you as cheap. So, making him wait so that his mind can keep fantasizing and dreaming about you is always recommended by relationship experts.
However, if a man appears to be waiting too long at first base, he might start to feel you are only leading him on. So, yes, he'll definitely say you teased him.
2. You dress sexy as hell when you meet
Men are visual creatures, and I cannot overemphasize this. It takes a man less than a second to know the type of lady he can have sex with once he spots her. Now, you not only make yourself available by meeting him, but you also make matters “worse” by radiating all the sexiness he can imagine by dressing hot.
However, all you do is sit on his couch and chill with Netflix or allow him to get to first base but cut short the “parade.” Come on, you are leading him on if you don't want sex. He'll undoubtedly tag you as a tease.
3. You've been sending “dirty texts or talking dirty”
There’s almost a no faster way to get into a man’s head than using words to play with his imagination from miles away. If you’ve been calling and sending dirty texts, asking him about his favorite sex position (and all the whole nine yards of sexting), but you never show up, then he probably will accuse you of deliberately fooling around with his emotions.
It's okay if you just met, and you want to know if his intentions are not superficial. However, if you want nothing to do with him under the sheets, there's no point making him dream about you.
4. You left him with blue-balls last time and every other time you meet
Perhaps, he’s your boyfriend, and you’ve been taking him beyond first base but leaving him unsatisfied, then he might be right that you are a tease. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should have sex when you feel uncomfortable about it. That would be a bad thing altogether. Still, you shouldn’t tempt a guy like that. What if he can’t control himself and forces his way with you?
5. You turned him down
Men naturally have egos the size of Mount Everest. You probably already know this fact, so don't be surprised when a guy calls you a tease after turning down his sexual advances. His ego only got bruised because he couldn't get into your pants. It's not like you are going to let every guy that comes your way in.
That's undoubtedly the real definition of being cheap. Saying you've been teasing him or perhaps, leading him on is only a way of salvaging his deflated ego. Instead of counting his losses, he chose to blame you by giving you a tag for turning him down.
6. He’s impatient
As a woman, a little flirting is not a bad thing if you newly met a guy. Knowing how to tease a man is an effective strategy you want to have in your corner. Why? Because you don't want to rush into things. At the same time, you don't want him to become uninterested, especially when you are into him.
So you keep flirting both in person and from afar (online) to create an emotional connection and to keep the spark alive. This makes you sure to a reasonable extent that he's not only hanging around for sex.
But when a guy is impatient, perhaps, he's not the type of guy that wants to catch any of Cupid's arrows before he gets in between your legs, he'll take a hike and probably accuse you of messing with him all along. It’s only an excuse to cover up the fact that his intentions are not real.
7. You've been making plans and canceling at the last minute
Yes, maybe you've been busy, or something keeps coming up. The truth is if you allow a guy to become expectant of seeing you, but each time, you are a no-show, he'll think you are not for real.
What's worse; he can accuse you of playing with his feelings. If it happens a first or second time only, then that can be overlooked. However, if every time you make plans about having a great time together ends up with you taking a rain check, it's only a matter of time before you'll get called a tease.
8. He’s into you
Perhaps, you just met a guy and not even trying to flirt or lead him on. Maybe you were simply being you, super-nice, extra caring, amazingly thoughtful, and maybe a little too affectionate.
However, that's just you, no strings attached or ulterior motives. If he says you've been teasing him, chances are; he likes you and has been hoping that whatever is between you both may graduate into something more.
9. You “friend zone” him every time he makes a move
Let's face it; no one likes to be friend-zoned. I've been there a couple of times. For me, it's worse than being dumped once and for all. With being in the friend zone, you may keep seeing your love interest with someone else, so the pain feels fresh every time.
Therefore, if you are close to a guy and he's been hoping to step things up with you, but you keep telling him how you dearly love him but you are not available now, girl, that's mean. How do you tell someone you love them, but you don't want them now? That's stringing them along. It may not end well.
10. Maybe you are a tease
Okay, I know it can be fun when a guy is all over you, voice-calling, texting, video-calling, telling you how beautiful and sexy you are. Yes, I've been there, and trust me, I was enjoying it, and didn't want it to stop even though I wasn't sure I was going to get down with the guy.
If you've been consciously flirting and leading a guy on with the mindset of only enjoying the attention he's giving you.
Then you are just being fed a taste of your medicine if he calls you a tease. I totally understand if you don't sex. But why make it look like you want it? Why make him think you want to get down when you don't have such intention?
11. Many guys are always around you
If you are the type that boys flock around you a lot, yet you seem not to commit to anyone, chances are a guy can see you as flirting around and unserious. Maybe you enjoy all the attention you are getting from multiple guys. To the guys, they might just see you as a flirt or a teaser.
Tease is often used to describe a person, be it a man or woman who pretends like he's attracted to someone but only wants to toil with them to enjoy the attention or see them in pain of loss. Still, some people tease because they want to be sure of the other person's intention before they commit to anything serious.
It means initiating or accepting sexual advances but stopping them halfway before getting totally naked or having penetrative sex. It could involve kissing, touching someone in sexually arousing areas of the body, and so on. Often, it involves leaving one person unsatisfied.
Yes, people tease when they are totally into someone. Many relationship experts and sex therapists often advise that a little fooling around shouldn't be harmful. It helps build up anticipation, makes both parties think of each other more, and helps retain the spark before getting into the sexual part of dating.
It’s not, but could be. If you deliberately toiled with a guy's desires when you are aware he has feelings for you, he could call you a tease as a way of getting back at you for toiling with his emotions.
Words are amazing ways to get into someone's head. You can do this via a call or text. Often, people tease the opposite sex by asking them their favorite sex position and how they want to be touched. Basically, it involves exciting a person with sexually inviting words and phrases.
Being a tease doesn't have to be a bad thing if you are using it as a strategy of knowing a guy's intentions or making him more interested in you.
However, there's no point toiling with other people's desires if you have no intentions of being with them. It could lead to a negative outcome, an unwanted assault. I hope you enjoyed the article? Please, feel free to leave a comment and share it with your friends.
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.