Whether you have just stepped back into the dating world after a long-term relationship and you are getting used to the world of texting and dating, or you just want to know that what you're doing is right, this article will explain the etiquette of texting and dating. While it may seem like a simple thing, the texts that you send to potential partners are so important.
Texting is usually the first point of contact that you will have when you start dating someone. Whether you decide to text someone that you like at work whether they would like to go for a coffee at lunchtime or you have texted a friend of a friend to ask them on a date, the words that you use to compile the message mean everything.
You may have never thought much about texting and exactly how you write each message to a potential partner but it does make a difference. Sending long and deep messages when you have only known someone for a short amount of time can easily be overwhelming and put someone off. At the same time, sending blunt and overly concise messages can cause someone to lose interest.
Keep reading to find out more about texting and dating.
- 1 Texting Etiquette Dating
- 1.1 1. Avoid One-Word Answers
- 1.2 2. Keep It Balanced
- 1.3 3. Don’t Send Too Many Messages
- 1.4 4. Don’t Text Too Often
- 1.5 5. Don’t Wait For Ages To Respond
- 1.6 6. Send Caring Messages
- 1.7 7. Pay Attention To Them
- 1.8 8. Don’t Always Text First
- 1.9 9. Introduce Phone Calls
- 1.10 10. Don’t Send Overly Long Messages
- 1.11 11. Keep Things Fun
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Sum Up…
Texting Etiquette Dating
It is important to get the texting part of dating right, it is not too complicated but it is helpful to know a few rules so that you don’t miss out on the chance of something great happening. It is good to remember that misunderstandings through text are common, so be clear in the messages that you send so that your crush does not get the wrong idea.
It is also important that you don’t start obsessing about writing the perfect text messages to your crush. Keep the messages that you send personal but to the point. Save most of your conversations for face-to-face meetings where you can really get to know each other. Your relationship shouldn’t be based on texting alone.
It is important to get the balance right between keeping in contact in between meetings while not texting too much. It may be helpful to agree on some guidelines when texting your partner. You may not like to check your phone when you are at work, so it may be useful to let your partner know this so that they don’t get the wrong idea and think that you are ignoring them.
1. Avoid One-Word Answers
If someone sends you a long and meaningful message, it is usually never a good idea to reply with a simple and thoughtless one-word answer. Your message does not have to be as long in return but shows that you have at least read the message and care about what they have to say.
2. Keep It Balanced
When messaging someone it can be easy to lose the balance. One person may continue to talk about themselves for the whole conversation and the other doesn’t have a chance to say anything. Make sure to ask questions about them but also talk about yourself too.
3. Don’t Send Too Many Messages
If your partner or crush hasn’t replied to your last message, it is not a good idea to overload them with messages until they reply. Wait for their answer to your first message before asking them a load of other questions as they may become overwhelmed.
4. Don’t Text Too Often
If you are in the early stages of dating, texting too often can actually ruin the chances of your relationship lasting. It can be easy to talk about everything you have to talk about via text and then have nothing to say when you go for a date in real life. Try to find a balance.
5. Don’t Wait For Ages To Respond
If someone sends you a good morning message, don’t wait hours to respond in an effort to try and play it cool. Mind games never usually work in relationships so keep things real. This does not mean that you always have to reply right away but don’t always wait hours to write your reply either.
6. Send Caring Messages
If you have just got home from a date with your crush, send them a short and sweet text message to ask whether they got home okay and that you really enjoyed the date. These types of messages help to build your relationship and show your partner that you don’t want to play games
7. Pay Attention To Them
No one likes to have a conversation with another person unless they know that they are interested and paying attention. If your crush is telling you about their interests and passions, show interest and pay attention. Bring it up later to show that you really listened to them.
8. Don’t Always Text First
If your crush never seems to text you first, it is not really fair on you. Don’t message them for a few days and see whether they initiate a conversation when you don’t. If they don’t, you may realise that they are not as interested in your relationship as you are and it may be time to walk away.
9. Introduce Phone Calls
When you are getting to know a person and you have been getting on really well, it may be time to introduce a phone call every now and again. This way you can really talk properly to one another, even if you are apart. It may seem scary but it will take your relationship to the next level.
10. Don’t Send Overly Long Messages
Avoid sending overly long messages and keep deep and meaningful conversations for when you go on real dates. Otherwise, you may run out of things to talk about. Also, avoid asking deep or potentially difficult questions until you speak in person to avoid hurting your partner.
11. Keep Things Fun
When you are getting to know someone one of the most important pieces of dating advice is to text back in a fun and flirty manner. Don’t let the texting conversations become too deep.
When you are dating, texting is a great way to keep in contact in between face to face meetings, but too much texting can easily ruin the potential of a relationship. Stay in contact with this person every few days and text to plan your dates, but try to keep it at a minimum and share the real conversation for when you see each other in person to keep things exciting.
Texting can ruin a relationship if it is not done in the right way. If you text one another too much in between dates when you are still in the early stages of your relationship, you can run out of things to talk about on your dates and things can become boring. Texting too much can cause each party to become disinterested and the relationship may fizzle out.
Whether you text the person that you are dating every day or not depends on the individuals involved in each situation. Every relationship is different so it is important that you find something that works for both you and your partner. Some people just do not enjoy texting so it is important to find a balance if this is the case so that you can still stay in contact.
There is no set rule as to how long you should text someone before you go on a first date with them. See how the situation feels and whether you feel ready for a date. There is nothing wrong with taking some time to get to know someone before you go on a date, but at the same time you cannot put it off forever. If it doesn’t feel right, call it off.
Some guys do like it when girls text first in the same way that some girls prefer when guys text first. It is important to find what works for your individual relationship and situation. Make it clear that you are interested in someone even if you do not like to text often so that you are both on the same page. Good communication does not have to involve constant texting.
To Sum Up…
Sometimes, the world of texting and dating can seem overwhelming and stressful, but it doesn’t have to be. Find whatever works in your individual situation and don’t worry about what other people are doing in their relationships. If you enjoy texting your partner every day and they do too, then continue to do so. Otherwise, find a balance and what feels right to both of you.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.