27 Telling Signs that You Might Be In A One-Sided Relationship & What To Do

If you feel like you are in a one-sided relationship, you may be at a breaking point – wondering if you should continue being in this unbalanced relationship. It’s important not to start making excuses for your partner and to expect equal effort in your relationship. One-sidedness is not fun or healthy and can cause serious relationship issues, such as emotional burnout!

If your relationship feels like it could be an unbalanced relationship, you should take steps to find a more balanced relationship. This may mean starting a new relationship or just working on your current relationship so that you can not feel insecure or like your partner’s expectations are unreasonable. This is a big sign that you are in a relationship with one-sidedness.

Today, we will look at the signs of relationships that are one-sided. Plus, we’ll examine how to respond favorably to your partner so that you are not the one doing all the work in the relationship anymore. No one wants to feel like they are doing all the work in the relationship. That’s a good sign that there is a balance issue in your relationship. Let’s dive in!

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Signs You May Be In A One-Sided Relationship

1. There are many misunderstandings

Arguments and misunderstandings are common when there is a lack of understanding in a relationship. Why would you lack understanding? Usually, this happens when one person does not listen to the other person. If you don’t listen to your partner, how will you ever know what their needs and wants are? This leads to the next point!

2. You don’t feel like you are listened to

Listening properly to your partner is crucial. As mentioned, how will you know what your partner needs or wants if you do not listen to what they say? I know when I speak to my partner about the things I need to be done around the house, he understands that there are certain things I need help with and other things I can do myself.

Without that understanding, he might not know how to make me happy. How could he? If he does not understand that I need the counters bleached to feel happy about having a clean kitchen because that makes it clean in my eyes, he will just continue wiping the crumbs in the trash or sink without cleaning the countertops. He’d always miss the mark.

3. One person texts more than the other

Do you always receive texts from your partner but never text him or her back? Why are you doing this? Do you think your relationship is a game? You may want to think about your intentions in this relationship to decide if you are truly being fair to your partner! If one person is doing all the texting, he or she is chasing without reciprocation.

4. One person does all the calling

Like texting, if one person starts all the phone conversations, the relationship is uneven. Maybe you call your partner all the time and leave messages on his or her voicemail but never receive a call back from them. That is not fair to you. Wouldn’t you agree? Talk to your partner about this one-sidedness you are feeling in your relationship!

5. You may feel used by your partner

I have felt “used” many times in my life – by friends and boyfriends. For example, I’ve been in relationships where I had a car, and the other person did not, so they were basically using me for my car since they needed a ride everywhere. If you are in a relationship like this, you may have an imbalance that needs to be fixed.

Maybe when you spend time together, the time is always spent helping the other person study for exams. If that’s the case, they could be using you for your intellect. If you aren’t getting anything out of the relationship, it seems to be imbalanced. Would you not agree? Do you feel used in your relationship? Think about it and maybe end things.

6. You might feel like your partner is not there for you

If you are constantly supportive and encouraging to your partner but do not feel like they are there for you, you may be in a one-sided relationship. Maybe you are always upbeat and uplifting but never get the support you need from your partner. This is not fair, especially if the two of you are in love and you want him or her to be there for you!

7. One person initiates affection and sex

This sign is pretty self-explanatory. Do you initiate affection or sex all the time? It could mean that your partner is just shy, and their personality just does not allow them the liberty to do this. If that is the case, you may not be in a one-sided relationship. Just figure out if it is a problem or if you are happy the way things are right now!

8. You feel insecure about your future

you feel insecure about your future

Are you wondering what the future has in store for your relationship? Does your partner refuse to make future plans with you? In a good relationship, you will see that both partners talk about the future. They might discuss vacation plans or plans to one day move in together or get married. Those are big steps to look forward to!

9. You may feel like there is not an even connection in the relationship

It might be that in one area of your relationship, you feel just fine, but in other areas, you feel like there is a complete imbalance. Maybe your sex life is phenomenal, and you would not change a thing in that area of your relationship, but on the spiritual side of your relationship, you are always the one initiating everything.

Maybe you are the one who makes church plans or asks him or her to read the Bible with you. If you are putting forth all of the efforts in one area of your relationship, there is something uneven going on. You should feel somewhat complete in all areas of your relationship – not that you are making all the efforts in one area!

10. You are unsure of your partner’s feelings for you

Many guys have trouble talking about their feelings, so if you are a woman, you might be in a situation where your boyfriend does not want to talk about his feelings a lot. Many men would rather show their feelings than say them aloud. This could mean that things are okay in your relationship; just ask him how he feels.

On the other hand, if you are feeling insecure and anxious about your relationship and where things are going, you may be in an unbalanced relationship. Be sure to analyze the situation to determine what is going on before just attacking your partner with accusations. It might be smarter to figure things out before bringing them up!

11. There is a lack of healthy communication

When there is good communication in a relationship, both parties share and open up to one another. Both tell stories about what has happened in their lives. If your partner does not treat you as he or she would a friend, there may be a problem. Why are they afraid to open up to you? Why have they never shared anything personal? Ask questions!

12. You may feel empty after a date

Sometimes, we go out with someone and have a great time, but after the date is over, we feel weird. We don’t know exactly why we are feeling that way, but we know that it is not normal. If you are feeling this way after spending time with your loved one, you might be in an unhealthy relationship. It might be time to reexamine things!

Here are a few words that may describe how you may feel after a date if you are in a one-sided relationship:

  • Fun at the moment only
  • Unfulfilled
  • Worried
  • Lonely
  • Drained
  • Stressed
  • Unsatisfied

13. One person arranges all the dates

Are you always the one asking your partner out on dates? Do you always feel like you are the one making all the plans? Do you never go out unless you do all of the work? Those aren’t healthy signs of a good relationship! You might want to play a little hard to get to show that you are not going to always do all of the work in the relationship!

14. One person may pay for everything

If one person pays for all the dates, the relationship is definitely one-sided. There is an exception to this, of course. Suppose you offer your partner something that makes up for the fact that he or she pays for everything, that makes things fair. I’m not saying you need to do something unethical or unsavory in exchange for dates, but be fair.

You might bake your boyfriend cookies if he always pays for all the dates or something like that. This will show that you appreciate the money he spends on you. Maybe you cannot afford to date right now, but your partner insists that the two of you go somewhere nice – somewhere you cannot afford. It’d be nice to do something for him.

15. You are told you are “being taken advantage of” by others

What do your friends and family think about your relationship? Do they think you are being taken advantage of? Do they think that you are using your man or woman? Listen to what others say to best determine what kind of relationship you are in. Of course, do some discovery on your own, as well.

16. You feel unappreciated

you feel unappreciated

If you feel like you are doing all of the work in the relationship without any reciprocation, you might be in a one-sided relationship. You might pay for all the dates and feel fine about that, but if you never hear a “thank you,” you may feel unappreciated and used. Talk to your partner about what you need in your relationship.

17. One person does all the social media activity

If one person does all the liking, commenting, and sharing on social media without anything in return, the relationship may be one-sided. It’s important to have balance in all areas of a relationship, which includes social media! Today, social media is just as important as text messages to some people, so pay attention to what your partner does!

18. There is a spiritual imbalance

If you are in a spiritual relationship but feel an imbalance, you may have problems that you never realized before. If one person is doing all the initiating, there is something off. One person might say, “Let’s do a Bible study,” “Let’s go to church,” or “Let’s say a prayer before dinner!” They are doing all the efforts, while the other is just going along.

This could happen in any aspect of the relationship, but it just is not fair to the person doing all of the work. You want to make sure you are being fair to your partner. If you don’t want to be in a relationship like that, end things! Don’t continue to use the other person!

19. You might hide your true emotions

One person may not ever say things like, “I love you.” This can make the other person feel pretty lousy because the relationship is uneven.

20. You concede to give the other person their way

My partner gave me the example of McDonald’s. I love getting food from there, but he isn’t a fan. If we always got fast food from there, that wouldn’t make for a very fair relationship. Don’t always give your partner his or her way or expect the same!

21. You give services without receiving any

Maybe you are always giving out massages but never get any in return! That is not really fair and you may feel cheated by this. Make sure you are giving something back to your partner in the bond you share or it’s going to be uneven.

22. You may loan money without it being returned to you

Giving out loans in a relationship can lead to some unfair behavior. It’s just never a good idea! However, if you have borrowed money, just make a payment schedule and be fair. Start paying him or her back to show that you are not mooching off them. 

If the loan is legit, you might even sign paperwork showing that you are serious about paying it back. That way, they do not feel used or taken advantage of.

23. You say those three little words without a response

If your partner has said they love you, but you don’t say it back, you should tell them why. Don’t get their hopes up that you are feeling something that you do not.

24. You have not met his or her friends

you have not met his or her friends

If you have introduced him or her to your friends but he or she won’t do the same for you, things are uneven in your relationship. Consider talking to him or her about this. You need to find out why he or she doesn’t want you to meet the important people in his or her life.

25. One partner’s needs are not being met

As mentioned later in this article, understanding your partner’s love language can greatly help with this! Know how they best receive love to know how to show it. If you don’t care, you might want to end things before they get any more serious than they already are.

26. One person makes all of the decisions in the relationship

If you make all the decisions, you should at least ask your partner for input to find out what he or she really wants or needs when it comes to this decision!

27. He or she does not take you home to meet the family

If your partner has gone to the trouble of taking you home and you don’t do the same, you are not being fair to him or her. Think about your true intentions when it comes to this partnership.

What Is A One-Sided Relationship?

You might be wondering what the term “one-sided” means. It generally means that one person is doing most of the work in the relationship, while the other person is barely in the relationship. For example, if your boyfriend calls you all the time and you never call him back or answer your phone, you are not really invested in the relationship because you don’t appear to care.

In relationships like this, you may see a great deal of imbalance, a lack of investment by one person, and a sense of emptiness by one person. One person may actually feel drained because they are putting forth all the effort without having it returned. Have you ever felt completely empty and drained after being around someone? It’s like that feeling all the time!

It is important to understand why you are attracted to the person you are in a relationship with if your relationship is one-sided. Do you have a tendency to go for the “bad boys?” Are you attracted to toxic relationships? If you see a pattern in your life where you are doing the same thing over and over again, it would be a smart idea to talk to someone about it.

Find a qualified counselor or therapist who can help you sort out the reasons that you are attracted to people like this. If you do some self-discovery and determine that you have an internal problem that needs to be fixed, you can work on that and eventually find the right person for you. That may lead to a happy marriage and kids! Look at what’s best for you!

What Is Healthy?

In a healthy relationship, you will see two people meeting each other’s needs properly. This means being fair to one another. One way people often do this is by understanding their partner’s needs. Learn their love language. If they require quality time together, make the time for them that they need to feel whole in the relationship. 

Another part of a solid relationship is a great amount of healthy communication. This means when your partner talks, you listen. Listening is not the same thing as hearing, by the way! Instead, you can actively listen. Active listening involves asking insightful questions and giving feedback when your partner is done talking. You want them to feel heard!

While there are many aspects to a good relationship that we could name, let’s look at one more – a caring attitude. Helping your partner out should be at the top of your to-do list. You should want him or her to be happy, meaning you care about what is best for them. If they need you, you are there for them, helping out whenever you can! That’s true love!

What You Should Do About It?

If you are in a one-sided relationship, you should consider ending it or taking a break until you can sort things out. Consider being friends as you wait for things to get better. You may be wondering how to end a one-sided relationship. The best thing you can do is explain your concerns to your partner. Tell them that you don’t feel you are in a healthy relationship.

It is important for you to get in a balanced relationship – a relationship that you deserve to be in! Don’t count yourself short; you deserve to be happy. There is no need to be in one-sided relationships, where one partner always gets his or her way and the other person is left empty. Relationships should not be that much work; understand that you deserve better!

Once you have convinced yourself that you deserve to be in a good relationship, you will realize that you were unhappy in the relationship you were just in. You’ll start to see all of the ways that it was unbalanced and why it was a good thing that you decided to end things before they got worse. It is always smart to look out for your best interests – especially in your love life.

If you are prone to finding one-sided relationships, you may have to do some self-discovery or self-improvement to figure out why you are attracted to these types of relationships. You don’t want to forever be unhappy; you want to eventually be in a healthy marriage, right? You’ll need a healthy foundation for that, so make sure you take care of yourself by finding the right person.

FAQs

What are the signs of a one-sided relationship?

You may not feel secure if you are in a one-sided relationship. You might wonder if the two of you are going to make it, whether your efforts are going unnoticed, and if he or she is the right person for you based on your partner’s behavior. You should feel secure!

What causes a one-sided relationship?

In a one-sided relationship, there are no healthy boundaries. You may think that other relationships are more healthy than your own. If you are spending time with your partner on his or her schedule only, you may be in a one-sided relationship. Have an honest conversation about your feelings.

When should you let go of a one-sided relationship?

One-sided relationships are never healthy or fun to be in. Instead of trying to fix the one-sided relationships that you are in, you should focus on whether your physical, mental and emotional needs are being met. Think about yourself for once to determine if you should stay in the relationship!

Is a toxic relationship one-sided?

Usually, a toxic relationship is one-sided. This is because one person is expecting things from the other that is just ridiculous. They might want everything in the relationship to be on their terms and not the other way around. It’s always smart to end a toxic relationship before it gets worse!

Can a one-sided relationship work?

One-sided relationships can last, but they will never work the way they should. One person will always feel drained and tired of always being the one that does all of the work in the relationship. It’s better to find a healthy relationship than to stick to a one-sided one.

In Summary

If your relationship dynamics are out of whack, you may need to examine your own needs and how they relate to the relationship you are currently in. A power imbalance is never the answer for romantic relationships. What do you think? We’d love to hear from you! Please leave a comment!

 

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