Do you have a nagging husband, a partner who just won’t let things go? Have you felt overwhelmed by the way your husband is handling this but don’t know what to do next?
Often, a partner nags because they feel like a task needs to be accomplished, and it’s not happening within a reasonable timeframe. If your husband is the one giving you a hard time, it may be time to take a look at what he’s nagging you about. Does your husband need a task accomplished for a particular reason? Has he tried communicating this with you?
Marriage is not an easy job, but once you have a husband, it’s important that you respect his wishes and what is important to him. Men like to know that they are cared for and loved.
Often, women can show this through their actions. Marriages have a much higher chance of survival if both parties put forth a great deal of effort. The more you put in, the more you will get out.
In this post, we will study this topic more fully to find out what you can do about nagging in your relationship.
- 1 What is Nagging?
- 2 Smart Ways To Deal With Nagging In A Marriage
- 2.1 1. Create a to-do list of the things that you need to accomplish
- 2.2 2. Explain the details to your husband of when you will do it
- 2.3 3. Take care of the problems that your husband is nagging you about
- 2.4 4. Don’t respond back negatively to your husband
- 2.5 5. Remind your husband of the previous discussion you had on this topic
- 2.6 6. Talk over the problem, and find a solution that works
- 2.7 7. Explain the reasons you have not yet done the task
- 2.8 8. Negotiate the terms of the complaint, and compromise when necessary
- 2.9 9. Apologize for the delay in getting it done
- 2.10 10. Ask your spouse for help in accomplishing the task
- 2.11 11. Be empathetic, and try to understand why he wants this done now
- 3 FAQs
- 4 To Sum Things Up…
What is Nagging?
According to the Wall Street Journal, nagging occurs when one person repeatedly requests that something is done, while the other person repeatedly ignores the request causing both parties to be very irritated with one another. The article explains that almost every couple has to deal with this at one time or another, so it’s an important concept to grasp and learn to handle.
While most people just roll their eyes at the mention of the word “nag,” others do recognize the seriousness of the problem. Constant nagging in a relationship can ultimately lead to other toxic behavior that may lead to the end of the relationship. No one wants to be harped on with no end in sight; instead, loving words and kindness are preferred by both parties in most cases.
Smart Ways To Deal With Nagging In A Marriage
1. Create a to-do list of the things that you need to accomplish
If your husband is always nagging you about something, is it possible that it is something you need to take care of? Have you just forgotten about it but you know it needs to be done? Get out a piece of paper, tablet, or notepad, or consider downloading a helpful application on your phone; make a list of everything you need to do. Prioritize all tasks.
2. Explain the details to your husband of when you will do it
Sometimes, your spouse may just need to know when you will be taking care of the task, so he can make plans accordingly.
For example, if he is nagging you about vacuuming before company comes over, just explain when you will have this done so that he can stop worrying about it. Better yet, just go do it real quick, and the issues will be over.
Communication can be the key to resolving anger associated with nagging. Just talk it all out. You may find some steps to accomplishing the goals are easier when you work with each other.
Wives can sometimes reduce the stress of their husbands and avoid criticism by just communicating the choices in life with someone who listens.
Sometimes, they just need someone to vent their criticism about their lives with friends.
3. Take care of the problems that your husband is nagging you about
As mentioned in the last point, sometimes it’s just easier to do it right now rather than coming up with another excuse as to why you don’t have it done. This idea is especially smart if your partner has asked you to do a task that will take less than five minutes to accomplish in your life. What are you waiting for? Go ahead and get it done!
Easy peasy! No more criticism from the husband about that issue. If new criticism arises, face it then!
There will be times when you may feel like your love is tested by everything that your husband is asking you to do, but remember the love you have for him and your kids. Do it all without anger in your heart, but instead, did it all with love for your mate and your children. Women who do it all out of love without question are great wives.
4. Don’t respond back negatively to your husband
If you know that your partner is nagging you about a thing that is really pointless, and it seems like he just enjoys nagging you for no good reason, you may be better off to ignore it or let it go. Don’t respond back in anger, or you will likely say words that you will regret. Sometimes, the expectations of our partners are unreasonable.
If you are in a situation like this, you may want to enlist the help of a trained professional, like a therapist or counselor. He or she may be able to help you discover the reasons your spouse is going on in the way he is, helping you find real solutions to the underlying problem. Therapists study human behavior and have the great insight they can share.
5. Remind your husband of the previous discussion you had on this topic
If you feel like this exact conversation has been said once before, you may want to kindly remind your husband that he has previously asked you to do this task. Then, explain what you said in response so that he can understand why the task has not been accomplished yet. Men do forget things, so there’s nothing wrong with a reminder.
6. Talk over the problem, and find a solution that works
If the nagging has continued for a significant period of time, you may need to have your husband sit down and talk this out. Ask him why this task or duty is so important when you think you might be able to get it done, and what you may need help with to finally get it done in the way that he wants it to be done.
7. Explain the reasons you have not yet done the task
Sometimes, you just need to remind your man why you haven’t had a chance to do it or what is holding you back. For example, if he needs the ceiling fan dusted, maybe you cannot reach it and need the help of a tall man like your husband to steady a ladder for you to stand on while you dust the fan. Talking over the details may help.
8. Negotiate the terms of the complaint, and compromise when necessary
In the example of dusting the ceiling fan, you may need to talk to your husband and let him know you need some help accomplishing the task. If he better understood what was holding you back from getting the thing done that he wants, your husband may stop nagging you about it. Men can be very understanding when they realize what’s going on.
9. Apologize for the delay in getting it done
If you know that there was a promise you made and you don’t have any excuse for not doing it, you may want to go ahead and apologize for not getting it done sooner. Your husband will likely appreciate the fact that you cared enough to say you were sorry for not getting it done sooner, and he’ll likely let the issue go.
10. Ask your spouse for help in accomplishing the task
If your husband realizes that he could be a part of the solution to the problem, he may be more likely to not only help you out, but he’ll also quit nagging you over anything related to the problem. He will now understand why there was a holdup in getting it accomplished. The smart move is to work together as a team when getting things done.
11. Be empathetic, and try to understand why he wants this done now
Look at it from the point of view of your husband to see why he needs this done now and why it’s important to him. What is the importance of this task to your husband? If you were in his shoes, how would you respond to this not getting done when you asked?
Usually, when anyone nags, it is because they want a task done in a certain amount of time and have repeatedly asked for it to be done without any results. In other words, your partner might say, “Wash the dishes,” over and over again if you don’t do it.
A good one is respectful of what you need, full of kindness and patience, and loves you with all his heart. He will go out of his way to do little things to make you happy because he genuinely cares about your well-being. That’s true love in marriage!
Balance him or her out with positivity. They may be negative because they are unhappy. In that case, you need to find out what is wrong, so the two of you can work it out and determine what needs to happen next. Couples therapy may be the best bet!
Most husbands would love to hear how handsome their wives think they are, how much in love they are with their husbands, what they love doing with their spouses, and how much happier they are now that the two of them are together. Brighten his day this way!
Like anyone, men want to know that they are loved and cared for. Men love being treated right, too; this means that you should give him the same respect that you expect in a relationship. Your partner is more willing to treat you well if you treat him the same.
To Sum Things Up…
Are you feeling bouts of frustration and irritation because of nagging? What course of action have you found to be the best solution to the problem? Let’s fix those naggers and get our relationships back on track today! Please comment, and share this post! Your voice matters to us!
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.