Perhaps you have been dating a guy for a while and things seemed to have been going well, however, he appears to be losing interest in you. You have been putting in all of the effort into the relationship, you always text him first and you plan every date. It is normal to become fed up if your partner is not putting in the same amount of effort as you.
Every relationship should be balanced and each partner should put in the same amount of effort as one another. If he never puts in any effort to please you or ensure your happiness, you are likely getting fed up of the situation. You may be trying to subtly let him know that you are unhappy, however, you should try and work on your communication first and foremost.
You should never be in a relationship if you cannot effectively communicate with your partner. If you can’t tell your partner how you feel, it is likely that your relationship is not going to work out.
Try to talk to your partner about how he is making you feel rather than resorting to hinting to him about your feelings. However, there are other ways to get him to realize what he might lose.
Keep reading to find out ways to make him believe he is losing you if you are fed up with him putting in no effort.
- 1 Making Him Think He’s Losing You
- 1.1 1. Communicate
- 1.2 2. Be subtle
- 1.3 3. Ask him to put in more effort
- 1.4 4. Think carefully about what you want
- 1.5 5. Don’t chase him
- 1.6 6. Look after yourself
- 1.7 7. Look for someone who is into you
- 1.8 8. Have fun
- 1.9 9. Stop doing everything for him
- 1.10 10. Focus on you
- 1.11 11. Spend more time with other people
- 1.12 12. Stop responding straight away
- 1.13 13. Be busy
- 1.14 14. Work on yourself
- 1.15 15. Make other plans
- 1.16 16. Make a change
- 1.17 17. Book a solo trip
- 1.18 18. Stop caring so much
- 1.19 19. Cancel plans
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Sum Up…
Making Him Think He’s Losing You
You may be in a relationship where you feel as if you are putting in all of the effort and your guy does nothing to make you happy. The first thing you need to consider is whether this relationship is worth putting effort into. If your partner does not do everything he can to make you happy, he is likely taking you for granted and this may never change.
You shouldn’t have to resort to making your partner believe that he will lose you, however, if you want to stay in this relationship, you may have no other option. You have tried to talk to him and you have tried everything you could believe to show him what he has with your relationship. It may mean that you have to make him worry about losing you to realize what he has.
It is never a nice position to be in. if you do not feel loved and appreciated in your relationship you need to consider whether you believe it is likely that this guy will ever change his ways. If he is not invested in your relationship it may not be worth it to fight for it. However, if you hope to make him believe he’s losing you, there are a few ways to go about it.
One of the first things that you should do when it comes to any relationship issues is to openly and honestly talk to your partner about how you feel or how he is making you feel. If you are unable to do so honestly, your relationship is likely never going to work out. It is important to let your partner know that he may lose you unless he changes his ways.
He may not realize how you are feeling and it may just take you telling him how you feel for him to believe that he might actually lose you. Hopefully, this will be enough, and he will do everything he can to make you happy.
2. Be subtle
Before doing anything dramatic to try to make him believe that he will lose you, try subtly hinting that you want him to try harder and make more of an effort in your relationship. See whether he takes your hint and you will know whether he really cares or not. If this doesn’t work, you may need to try another tactic, but it is worth a try.
Try hinting at him by telling him things that would make you happy and see whether he picks up the hint and carries out these activities. If he does make more of an effort, it is a sign that he really cares about you.
3. Ask him to put in more effort
Sometimes it will take you directly asking someone to put in more effort with you. It is never a nice situation to have to do so, however, if this is your partner’s first relationship, he may just not know how you feel. If you do not ask him to put in more effort, he may never do so. You should be honest with him and ask him to change his ways if you want him to do so.
If you ask him to put more effort in with you when it comes to planning dates or buying you little gifts, notice whether he does make these changes. If his ways stay the same, he may not be that invested in your relationship.
4. Think carefully about what you want
Before you come up with a plan to make him believe he’s losing you it is important to first consider whether this guy will ever make you happy. Perhaps you are unhappy together not because he isn't putting in enough effort but simply because you are not compatible with one another. Think about this before putting in too much time and effort if it won’t work anyway.
If you are unhappy in your relationship, it is important to take the time to figure out what is the real problem. You may have led yourself to believe that the problem is small and fixable when in fact, you may just not be right for each other.
5. Don’t chase him
It is also important to remember that you shouldn't ever chase a guy. If he is not invested in you, it is not worth your time and effort. Rather you should leave and look for someone who will treat you right. Put your love into someone who will give it back to you in return rather than someone who doesn’t care about you.
If you chase someone who is not committed to you, you will end up unhappy and likely heartbroken. Avoid these situations at all costs and take care of yourself.
6. Look after yourself
It can be easy to get all consumed by a relationship. You may spend all of your time thinking of ways to convince this man that you are worth him, when in fact you should be putting in more time to look after and love yourself. Without being able to love yourself, no one will ever be able to love you. So take care of yourself first.
Consider whether it is time to take a break from your relationship to work on yourself and figure out what you really want to get out of your life and your relationships. If he is there for you when you are back then you are likely meant to be with each other.
7. Look for someone who is into you
Rather than looking for guys you are immediately attracted to or are lusting after, look for someone who is interested in you. The infatuation and excitement that you get at the beginning of the relationship never lasts and what you really need for a long-term relationship is a feeling of compatibility and a deep love for one another.
8. Have fun
If you are in a relationship with someone and you think that he is losing interest in you, try just relaxing and having fun with your life. He will likely want to get more involved if he sees how much fun you are having. Throw yourself into your hobbies and the things that you love to do and see whether he comes running to join you.
9. Stop doing everything for him
Perhaps you have been together for a long time and you do a lot of things for your partner such as his laundry or cooking his dinner. He may not realize or appreciate everything that you do for him. If you want to make a guy realize how lucky he is, then stop doing all of the things that you do for him and get him to finally start appreciating you.
10. Focus on you
If you focus on yourself instead of him, he will see how capable you are on your own and this may make him worry that he is losing you. He may start to panic if things change in your relationship and you start to become more independent. You may notice that he starts to put more effort into spending time with you and doing things together because he misses what it used to be like.
11. Spend more time with other people
If you feel as if your partner is not paying you enough attention, it is important to spend time with your friends and family. If he is not making you happy, spend time with those you love and try to come up with a plan on how to move forward. He will likely also see how much fun you have with your social life and may want to be more of a part of it.
12. Stop responding straight away
Consider whether you always respond to your partner’s messages straight away. This man may not realize what he has with you because everything is so easy for him. Stop responding to his messages straight away and make him realize he’s losing you unless he changes his ways. Let him send another message or phone you again before you reply.
13. Be busy
If this is the situation, it is important to focus on everything else in your life rather than him. Make sure that he sees you are happy on your own without him and you are busy with every other aspect of your life. He may start to wonder why you aren’t available like you used to be or whether you are bored of him. Make him worry about losing you.
14. Work on yourself
Take this time away from your partner to really focus on yourself and do all of the things that you have been putting off for a long time. He may even see how interesting you are and fall in love with you all over again. Make him realize that he may lose unless he makes more of an effort. Show him exactly how great you are by working on yourself.
15. Make other plans
If your man does not put in enough effort with you and you hope to make him realize what he has, try making other plans that do not include him. If you do everything together or you only do things that he wants to do, it is time to start thinking about yourself and doing things that you want to do, even if your man doesn’t want to.
16. Make a change
If you want to make your man notice you in the same way as he used to, make a change in your appearance or your daily routine. He may worry that things are changing and you are growing apart. If it is time to make a guy realize what he may lose, so make a change and see whether he starts to put in more effort to be a part of your life.
17. Book a solo trip
If you always go away with your man, it may be time to book a solo trip. Keep posting pictures of all the places you are visiting by yourself and he may start to wonder why he is not by your side and realize that he is actually losing you.
18. Stop caring so much
If this man does not care enough about your relationship, it is important that you focus on other things and stop caring about him so much. At least try to show that you no longer care so much even if you do. However, if he sees that you are losing interest, he may start putting in more of an effort to get your attention.
19. Cancel plans
If your man always cancels your plans last minute, there is no reason why you should always stick to them. Give him a taste of his own medicine.
If you hope to make someone realize your value, you first have to show him what he would be missing out on if he left you. If it comes to this point in your relationship, you first need to consider whether he is even worth the trouble, as he may not be committed to your relationship. He may realize your value if he believes he will lose you.
If you hope to make someone miss you badly, you need to avoid contacting him for a while. If you message him every day, he is likely not going to miss you. However, if you hope to make him miss you, stop messaging for a few days or even a few weeks and see whether he comes running back to you. If not, it is likely time to walk away from this relationship.
You should never have to resort to testing someone to see whether or not they love you. If you do not feel secure and loved in your relationship, it is likely not the right one for you. However, if you do decide to test someone to see how he really feels about you, try to stop messaging or contacting him for a while and see how he reacts and whether he comes back to you.
If a guy has hurt you and does not regret doing so, he has shown his true colors and this is a sign that he is not worthy of you. Walk away from this relationship and look for someone who will treat you right. There is no point staying with someone who has previously hurt you without remorse as he is likely to do so time and time again in the future.
If you hope to make someone confess their feelings, it is important to be open and honest with them yourself. Relationships have to go both ways and unless you are both able to reveal your innermost feelings, it is not going to work. Sit down with your partner and try to communicate everything that is on your mind and your relationship will be much stronger.
To Sum Up…
It is never a nice position to be in if you feel as if you are the only person putting effort into your relationship. If things never change, it is clear that this guy does not deserve you and you should walk away and look for someone who will treat you right. However, first, try avoiding contact and see whether he comes running back.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.