According to a 2018 survey conducted by Trustify, a private investigator company, ‘Men are more likely to commit infidelity’. With this in mind, it is equally surprising that when couples are experiencing infidelity issues, close friends and family members choose not to intervene.
Sadly, if you find yourself in this predicament and you are not sure how to tell someone their husband is cheating anonymously, I am here to help.
Should You Even Tell?
To begin with, I will first examine the question of ‘Should you tell someone if you know they are being cheated on?’ No doubt, the answer is not always as straightforward and will defer from one person to another. Nevertheless, exposing this sensitive information anonymously might be your best bet; especially if you’re looking to protect your relationship.
However, keep in mind that before reaching out to this person or their husband, whether anonymously or overtly, you have to be 100 percent certain that their partner is actually cheating. Simply stating that you think their husband is having an affair may not be convincing enough, so you might want to gather some damning evidence that could accompany your message.
Now that’s out of the way, let’s delve into some of the more effective ways of exposing a husband who is cheating and how to tell his wife anonymously.
How Do You Let Someone Know They Are Being Cheated On?
1. Send an anonymous email.
I think we can all agree that it’s never an easy feat trying to expose a cheating partner or worse yet, understanding the best way how to tell someone you know they are cheating. Certainly, it is an extremely difficult conversation to have, and it could potentially affect their relationship with you in a negative way.
However, the task doesn’t get any easier than via email. The great thing about using this method is that you can create a whole new email that is totally separate from your work or personal email, for the sole purpose of relaying this information.
With that being said, it is vital to remember that your end goal is to send this email anonymously. So, it’s best to refrain from using your real name or disclosing any personal information, such as your address. I also recommended using a fake name; however, if coming up with a fake identity is difficult, there are many free fake name generators online.
Now let’s get to the real deal – writing the email. When writing, be straightforward and precise so as to not give away your identity, and be sure to attach additional proof such as pictures of the husband, videos and any other media files to back up your claim. Remember that this person has no reason to believe you, as they will not be aware of who you are, so the more proof you can attach to your email, the more convincing you can be.
2. Write a letter.
If you’re looking to adopt a more old fashioned method of exposing a cheating husband, an anonymous letter about cheating spouse delivered to the address of the unknowing partner could be a good way to relay this information.
No doubt, if you are using this method, you most likely know this individual personally as well as their home or work address. However, if you are unsure of their address, sending a letter might prove to be difficult and will require a little digging around.
Nevertheless, let’s assume you already have their address and you’re certain a letter is the best way to communicate your concerns, be sure to refrain from using your usual handwriting style in the letter, as it could easily be recognized. It’s also a good idea to refrain from being too creative and writing letters constructed with newspaper and magazine cut-outs as this method will likely cause some concern; since this is the method often associated with serial killers and terrorists.
With that said, it is much smarter and safer to type out the letter instead. And as you write, always have it in mind that you are breaking bad news to the receiver. So being sensitive to the fact that this information could hurt the person will help you construct a letter that is full of facts without going into unnecessary detail. Your letter could read a little like the below:
“Dear (victim’s name),
I am very sorry to have to write this to you, as I know that it could hurt you, but I just wanted to tell you that your husband has been cheating on you, and I felt like it was only right that you knew. I have included some proof of this in the form of pictures, which you can decide to view or not. Again, I am really sorry to tell you this. I have no bad intentions and only wanted you to know the truth.”
3. Make an anonymous phone call.
Knowing how to expose someone who is cheating to their partner or someone else can be a daunting task; most especially via an anonymous telephone call. If you do not know the affair partner personally, you could be tempted to use your own phone number to call them. However, with doing this, there is a possibility that they could end up tracking you down with the number or even your voice.
As such, using a burned messaging service is your best bet. A burner service can come in the form of an app or even a website, which protects your real number by issuing a temporary phone number that cannot be traced back to you; thus your identity remains anonymous. With this method, you will certainly feel a little more at ease calling the victim and letting them know about their husband’s affair.
Also, if you’re worried about using your real voice to make the call, there are burner services that do more than just issuing temporary phone numbers. In fact, there are many call voice changer apps that alter your voice entirely. This way, you are offered more freedom in the words you tell the person or people involved in order to provide an accurate description of events.
While speaking, remember to be respectful and polite, straight to the point and relay all the important facts; whether it’s to the wife or any other affair partners. What’s more, try not to beat around the bush and be as clear in your explanation as possible. More importantly, be friendly as you speak and try to give as much evidence as you can over the phone.
Remind the person on the other end that you have no malicious intent, and you are out to hurt no one. And once the conversation is over, end the call in an empathic manner as you say your goodbyes.
4. Use Social Media.
Social media is more than just a way to connect with friends, loved ones, and various other people you have never met. It can also be an effective tool to expose a cheating husband. In fact, there are various social media platforms that you can use to reach out to and communicate with a jilted spouse.
So, if you are convinced that social media is the most convenient option, then the first step is to get a hold of any social media handles or profile names of the parties involved. As the most common social media platforms include Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram, it’s certainly a good idea to start your search from here.
Once you have found the wife’s social media page, you will need to set up a new account, because sending the message from your personal account trumps the purpose. Also, be sure to connect your new social media account to an email address that does not disclose your name or any other personal information.
In fact, I also recommend creating an entirely new email account, simply for this purpose.
Once you’re all set up with the email side of things, ensure the information on your fake social media account is convincing enough so as not to be mistaken for spam. This will mean adding pictures (not of yourself) and gaining a couple of friends/followers on the page before attempting to reach out.
Yes, it certainly sounds like a lot of work, but if you really want to tell someone about their cheating husband, you’ve got to put in the required effort to make your actions count. Once this has been done, you can proceed to send a friend request or follow the wife’s account to gain permission to send messages. No doubt, your message should give a detailed account of what you know as well as any relevant evidence attached.
5. Use an anonymous message service.
Anonymous message services are individual messaging channels that you can use to send messages to the people without disclosing your identity. Unlike the process of creating a new, anonymous email or social media page, an anonymous message service doesn’t require you to create any new accounts. Instead, this platform simply sends out a message directly to the receiver.
This message can be sent via Facebook, Twitter, email, text/SMS or even personally via a phone call. This method is pretty useful as it leaves no trace and the service providers often promise a 24-hour delivery service. Even better is the fact that they can also make the phone call for you and read out the message to the receiver so that you won’t have to.
Seeing as you won’t be the one on the other side of the line, it’s vital the message is concise and factual, without the unnecessary addition of fluff. Furthermore, understand that the receiver will be completely unaware of their husband’s actions and might not even want to know some of the more unpleasant details; so save them that extra hurt by not going there.
On a Final Note
If you are in this unfortunate predicament, we hope you’ve been able to learn some creative new ways to let that friend or acquaintance know that their husband is cheating, anonymously. Please let me know what you think in the comments section and don’t hesitate to share this article if you like it or have found it helpful.
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn’t an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.