If you are in a relationship, it is important that you are able to trust your partner and you do not have to worry about whether they are lying to you or not.
If you cannot trust your partner, then you either need to work on building up that bond between you or decide to walk away. No relationship is going to last unless it is built on complete openness and honesty.
You should be able to talk to your partner about whatever is on your mind and you should be able to tell each other anything without having to worry about potential judgment. If you are unable to do so, then your relationship is not likely going to last and you are going to become unhappy. However, this is obviously the ideal situation and is not always the case.
You may find yourself in a relationship where you do not completely trust someone, this is never a nice situation to be in and it is difficult to know how to deal with it.
First, it is important to find out whether your concerns are based on reality or whether you have conjured up negative thoughts. Whatever it is, it is time to figure out whether this person is lying over text, and then you can decide how to handle it.
Keep reading to find out whether someone is lying to you over text.
- 1 How To Tell If Someone Is Lying Over Text
- 1.1 1. They send long messages
- 1.2 2. They avoid your questions
- 1.3 3. Their texting style changes
- 1.4 4. They repeat themselves
- 1.5 5. They get annoyed
- 1.6 6. They take a long time to respond
- 1.7 7. They turn things around
- 1.8 8. They aren’t confident in their choice of words
- 1.9 9. They try to test you
- 1.10 10. They are trying to buy time
- 1.11 11. They complain
- 1.12 12. They don’t text you first
- 1.13 13. They make mistakes
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Sum Up…
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying Over Text
If you are in a strong and stable relationship, you shouldn’t have to worry about whether this person is lying to you over text.
However, there are of course relationships that are not built on trust and honesty, and while it is a good idea to move on, it can sometimes be hard to do so. The first thing that you need to do is figure out whether they are lying to you over text or not.
If they are not lying to you and you imagined the situation, then you need to consider why you are not able to trust this person in the first place.
If you think you can build up your trust together, start by communicating openly about your trust issues and how you can move on together. If they have been lying to you over text, it is time to decide whether this relationship is right for you.
It is usually not a good idea to stay in a relationship with someone unless you can completely trust them. You should never have to worry about where they are or who they are with. If they send you a text when they are out, you should be able to trust that they are telling you the truth, if you cannot, it may be time to call it quits in this relationship.
1. They send long messages
If you are texting someone and they are sending long messages to explain their behavior that does not seem to fit the conversation, they may not be telling you the truth. If someone is being dishonest they may be subconsciously trying to explain their behavior and hide their lies.
If they send long messages and do not talk directly, this may be a sign they are trying to hide the truth by avoiding direct speech and sending convoluted messages instead.
2. They avoid your questions
If you are trying to spot a liar, consider whether this person answers your questions directly and immediately, or whether they avoid the questions by changing the topic or referring to something else. If they do so, they may not be telling the whole truth.
They may also avoid responding altogether. Sometimes, if someone is lying, they may not respond to a simple question at all. They may tell you later that they just didn’t see the message or the message never came through to their inbox.
3. Their texting style changes
If you know this person well you might even notice their whole texting style change when they are lying to you. Whether they usually send emojis at the end of every message and they are not doing so, or they usually just send short messages and are sending long ones, it may be a red flag.
4. They repeat themselves
If someone is lying to you, they may continue to repeat themselves throughout the course of the conversation. This person is trying to hide their lies by convincing you that they are telling the complete truth. However, they may be hiding something.
They may also emphasize what they are saying a lot. When someone is lying, they are trying to convince you that their story is not a lie so they may emphasize things more than usual. They are trying to sound convincing and confident, but they may actually be hiding a string of lies.
5. They get annoyed
Often if someone is telling lies, they will be on edge and may easily get annoyed if you start asking them a lot of questions. This is especially true if they think they are close to being caught out. Angry behavior like this is one way to spot a liar over a text message.
6. They take a long time to respond
If this person takes a long time to respond to your message even though they are always on their phone, they may be hiding a lie. Consider how much time it usually takes them to reply to a message, and if it is much longer than usual, it may not be a good sign.
You may notice that they are “typing” for a long time. This is another sign that they are trying to conjure up a story to hide their lies. If you can see that this person saw your message, but immediately went offline afterward, it may be a sign that they are avoiding sending a reply because they are feeling guilty about lying or they don’t know how to convince you they are telling you the truth.
7. They turn things around
A person may try to turn things around and make you feel bad if they are lying. They are trying to play on your emotions to try to make you stop asking questions that may catch them out. If you notice this, it is important not to ignore it.
This person may also try to blame you for things that were not your fault if they are trying to hide their own behavior. They may ask you something that makes you feel embarrassed in order to hide their own lie.
8. They aren’t confident in their choice of words
Liars may use words like “probably” or “maybe” when they are writing their text messages. This may be an indicator that this person is telling a lie and is not confident you will buy it.
9. They try to test you
When people tell lies, they may try to test the person that they are talking to. They may want to know how annoyed or angry you would be if they actually told the truth.
10. They are trying to buy time
If a person tries to change this subject during a conversation, they may be buying time to think of a good lie to cover up something that they have done. If they do this a lot, it is not something you should ignore.
11. They complain
If the person you are messaging complains a lot, they may be trying to use a fake illness as a way to lie and get out of something. If they message you to say “I was sick last night so I couldn’t come,” they may not be telling the real truth.
12. They don’t text you first
It is also not a good sign if this person never texts you first anymore, they may be hiding from you because of lies they have told and no longer want to initiate a conversation.
13. They make mistakes
If this person keeps making mistakes or contradicting themselves, it may be a sign that they are telling lies and cannot remember their story or are getting stressed because of the lies that they are telling you.
You should never have to trick someone into telling the truth. Relationships should not be about playing mind games, rather, healthy relationships should be built on trust, communication, and honesty. If you do not have these things with the person that you are with, it may be time to seriously consider whether this person is making you happy any longer and if not, walk away.
You will likely be able to tell if someone is lying, however, if you are concerned about whether your partner is telling the truth, communicate with them openly about these feelings. If you are unable to talk to your partner honestly about how you feel, your relationship is not likely going to last much longer. If you know your partner is lying, confront them and decide whether or not to walk away.
There are a few ways to tell if someone is lying online including them repeating certain information or taking a significantly long time to reply to your messages. However, if you are talking to someone online and you cannot totally trust them, it is a good idea to end this conversation and look for someone who you can completely trust is telling you the truth.
There are no set words that liars use, however you will likely be able to tell a liar by their facial expressions and their body language. However, if you are worried that your partner is lying to you, it is usually a good idea to confirm your concerns before you bring it up and potentially say something you may regret. Avoid giving ultimatums unless you are completely sure.
A guilty person will likely express their feelings through body language and expressions. If you know this person well you will probably be able to tell when they are lying to you. If you can no longer trust your partner, it is important to have an honest conversation about why there is no longer trust in your relationship, otherwise, it is not going to last much longer into the future.
To Sum Up…
It is never nice to find yourself in a situation where you are trying to figure out whether someone is lying to you or not. However, there are certain ways to tell if someone is avoiding the truth. If you know this person well, you will likely be able to tell quite easily if they are hiding the truth from you. Without honesty, no relationship is likely going to last, so be careful and walk away if necessary.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.