Did you just get dumped via text? What an awful way to end things! I know what you are going through; it’s rough. Just believe in yourself and you’ll get through this! Today, we will be looking at how to respond to a breakup over text, so you know exactly what to say to your boyfriend. This will help you keep your composure during this difficult time. No one enjoys being dumped!
You may be tempted to do things out of revenge because you are hurt since this coward couldn’t even look at you face-to-face to end the relationship. However, it’s best not to act out like this because you will regret it later. I know you probably have very hurt feelings, but keying his car or threatening him won’t win him back.
Breaking up over text is unfair and childish. Your ex should have met with you face-to-face to give you the closure you deserve so that you can move on to the next relationship when you are ready! Today, we’ll also discuss what NOT to do when you get a breakup text message. That way, you won’t do or say something you regret later on.
- 1 How To Respond To A Breakup Over Text
- 1.1 1. Thanks for letting me know!
- 1.2 2. Let’s talk!
- 1.3 3. You don’t mean this!
- 1.4 4. ?
- 1.5 5. Is there someone else?
- 1.6 6. Fine with me!
- 1.7 7. Is this really what you want?
- 1.8 8. Why?
- 1.9 9. Best of luck to you, then!
- 1.10 10. I respect that.
- 1.11 11. We are not getting back together, then!
- 1.12 12. LOL
- 1.13 13. When do you want to pick up your stuff?
- 1.14 14. I couldn’t care any less!
- 1.15 15. Thank you for being honest with me.
- 1.16 16. I am okay with your desire to break up.
- 1.17 17. Goodbye!
- 2 Rules For Responding To A Breakup Via Text Messaging
- 3 FAQs
- 4 To Sum Up
How To Respond To A Breakup Over Text
1. Thanks for letting me know!
Tell your ex via text message that you appreciate him letting you know that he wanted to break up with you. Your partner could have easily just given you the silent treatment. In my opinion, silence is worse than being broken up with via text messages. I’d rather know that my partner wants to end things than have to figure out the facts myself.
2. Let’s talk!
Send your ex this text message: “Can we talk about this, please?” You might really want to talk this over if you have no idea for what reason your partner is ending things, especially via text messages. Breaking up over text is the worst! You usually can’t get closure this way, an essential part of being ready for your next relationship.
3. You don’t mean this!
Tell your ex via text that you think he is making a mistake. You don’t have to text words that sound like a threat, but you can explain that you are in utter disbelief in your response. Just text him a message stating that you don’t understand what changed his mind about your relationship or his feelings for you.
Send your ex a question mark via text message. This will show him that you don’t understand the reason he has decided to break up with you. This will give you a chance to possibly get an explanation for the completion of your relationship if you have no idea why he broke up with you. Hopefully, he will tell you why he wants to break up with you.
5. Is there someone else?
Ask your ex via text if there is someone else in the picture. You may need to ask this if you have no idea what’s going on in your romantic relationship. Why did he decide to do this all of a sudden, and why break up via text message? That’s pretty unfair for you because you can’t hear his tone of voice or ask follow-up questions easily.
6. Fine with me!
Tell your ex via text that this decision is fine with you if you are happy he decided to break up with you. If you are just lashing out in anger and really want to know the reason for the breakup, this may not be the best response for you. If he wanted to break up with you this way, he obviously had his reasons. Send him texts asking for the reason!
7. Is this really what you want?
Send your ex a text message saying, “Are you SURE you want to break up with me like this right now?” He may not realize how wrong he is in ending a relationship like this. Your text response is letting him know that you are not sure that he really wants to break up like this. Give him a chance to break up with you the right way!
Ask your ex via text, “Why do you want to break up with me?” You can ask him via text message for the cause of the breakup. Explain that you do not understand what he meant by his text message and would like clarity on the subject. He will hopefully give you the reason that he wants to break up like this right now if you ask!
9. Best of luck to you, then!
Tell your ex via text that you wish him all the best of luck for the future. There’s nothing wrong with this text message, provided you don’t send a ton of text messages after this one. You are basically saying that you are fine with his decision to break up with you and understand why, so don’t send a lot of text messages after this one. It’s too confusing!
10. I respect that.
Send your ex a text message saying, “I respect your decision.” This is a very mature text that you can send after he decided to break up with you via text messages. If you decide to send this text, you are probably okay with the fact that he decided to break up with you via text message. You must know the reason for the breakup, then.
Only say this if you mean it and are ready to move on.
11. We are not getting back together, then!
Explain to your ex that if he decides to break up with you this way that you will NOT be getting back together later on. If you believe this to be true, go ahead and text your ex this message so that he will know you are okay with his decision to break up with you.
Let him know that his decision to break up with you this way is final, though, and that you will not forgive and forget.
Just send your ex the “LOL” text message with a laughing emoji. This is a clever text that you can send your ex after he decided to break up with you in this awful way. Give him a chance to come clean as to the cause of the breakup. Maybe it was someone else using his phone as a prank. Maybe he didn’t mean to break up with you! Seek clarification!
13. When do you want to pick up your stuff?
Via text message, arrange to get your belongings swapped after he has sent you a text to break up with you. You don’t want anything to be out there lingering, and you should want to cease all connections with this person since they thought it was okay to break up with you via text message when really that’s a childish way to break up with someone!
14. I couldn’t care any less!
Tell your ex via text message that you couldn’t care less. By sending him this text, you are letting him know that you feel the same way. You are glad he’s made this decision because you agree with him, or maybe you didn’t care about the relationship that much. You could be dating many people, and he was low on your dating totem pole!
15. Thank you for being honest with me.
Send your ex a text message stating that you are grateful for his honesty. He very well could not have said anything. Many guys think it’s okay to not text a girl anything but to instead avoid her at all costs. This “ghosting” behavior is even worse than a text breakup because you don’t know what the status of your relationship is.
16. I am okay with your desire to break up.
Tell your ex that you are perfectly fine by yourself. You were okay before you began this relationship, and you’ll be fine now that it’s over. You can express your independence in your text response. Just tell him you are glad he’s made this decision and want him to be happy, just like you will be. You don’t need him, especially if he is childish!
Let your ex know that you are okay with the breakup and wish him all the luck in the world in finding a new relationship with someone better. Okay, you don’t have to text him all of that, but you could just say, “Goodbye!” That should get the point across.
It might be smart to block him after this message so that you won’t have to read a stupid, immature comeback, which usually happens when someone is hurt or taken aback after a response to a breakup.
Rules For Responding To A Breakup Via Text Messaging
1. Give him a call
If you don’t know if he is being real about this breakup or not, you might want to give him a call and ask for clarity. Why did he decide to break up with you? This is a good tactic if you think that he is just mad over a stupid fight or if the two of you just are having problems. Let him know that you do not understand what caused him to change his mind/feelings about you.
2. Give him the silent treatment
Sometimes, the best thing to do is to allow the other person time to cool off. Just ignore the text message and say nothing back. You could also do this if you think he’s serious. Just give yourself time to think about why he might be doing this, so you can move on to the next chapter in your life.
My best advice is to tell you to delete him from your phone and block him if you know it’s really over. This is the most effective way to get him out of your mind and life, so you can move on.
3. Watch your mouth (Texts)
Don’t beg or plead with him via text messaging or in any way, really! You don’t want to appear desperate. If he doesn’t want or need you, you don’t need him. Try to control your reaction even if you are really hurt. Just don’t say something you will regret later. If you have trouble controlling yourself, just don’t reply right away. Give it a day so you can collect your thoughts.
4. What not to do when you get a breakup texts
I probably fall in the category of doing what you are not supposed to do, and it’s not a good thing. I’ve told guys that I do not accept the breakup and that I consider us to be still together. Needless to say, while they thought it was sweet, cute, and admirable, it didn’t exactly make them want to stay with me. They had already made up their minds, so it was over either way.
You could say something like, “I am not going to give up this easily.” On occasion, that can work but really only if the guy wasn’t serious about wanting to break up. I’ve had guys say they really appreciated how committed I was to the relationship, but I must say that those relationships did not last in the long run. You are better off just accepting their decision to break up.
Finally, you shouldn’t harass him with questions as to why he is making this call. Instead, look on social media to see what he’s posted recently if you need some closure. You might find the answers you are looking for there. Your best bet is to get on a dating website and move on, showing him (especially on social media) that you are okay with the breakup.
If you are the one trying to break up with your partner via text message, you should let them know the reason you have decided to do this. That’s the best way to give your ex is closure so that they can move on to the next guy or girl.
Communication via text message is not always the best. Emotions run hot, and feelings get hurt, usually because there is a lack of understanding. Maybe your partner needs clarification as to why you are making this decision. It’s pretty unfair and cowardly to break up with someone this way.
You can let your partner know that you are hurt but would like to know the reason for this breakup. Ask what the problem was that caused the breakup. When you send your goodbye message, be sure you don’t do or say something you will regret later on.
You should meet with them in person. Ask for understanding, explaining that you want to give them clarification for the reason for the breakup. Apologize if you have hurt your partner’s feelings and say that you wish things could have ended differently. This is much better than a breakup text.
If your partner has decided to break up with you via text messages, you can let them know that you think you should take a break from one another, so you can collect your emotions. Guys usually understand the need for silence after a breakup. Sometimes, there are no words.
To Sum Up
Are you in tears because you received a breakup text message? Has your partner decided to be a coward and break up with you via messaging rather than in person? Guys who do this are being really unfair. Please discuss in the comments section below, and also pass this along!
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.