How To Pursue A Man (11 Easy Steps that Anyone Can Do)

Are you trying to pursue a man but don’t know where to begin? Have you been chasing men forever but don’t feel like what you are doing is working? 

Believe me, I’ve been there! I spent forever trying to find Mr. Right to the point of almost giving up on finding him out there! It was a frustrating period in my life and didn’t seem like it would ever end. 

I read tons of self-help books, trying to find the secret recipe for winning the heart of men so that I could quit chasing them and live a fairy tale romance. I eventually learned that there weren’t any magic beans that would make everything fall into place just right. Instead, I needed to get smarter about how I was handling everything. 

In today’s article, we are going to look at a step-by-step method for pursuing men and actually seeing results. These tips will lead you toward the destination that you’ve been looking for – finding a husband who you could live happily ever after with. 

Plus, we’ll look at some other aspects that are involved when chasing boys so that you can have a happy ending to your story.

How To Pursue A Man In A Few Easy Steps

1. Get to know yourself

The first step when you pursue a man is to know who you are. Often, women think that they can change who they are to be appealing to men, so they pretend to be someone they are not. Eventually, who they really are will come out, so it’s best to learn who you are and be yourself. A woman who follows this practice has a great chance of success.

2. Learn about his interests

learning about his interests

If you aren’t yet ready to talk to men but have one on your mind, ask around to see what his interests, hobbies, and passions are. What do you have in common? Is there something that makes the two of you the perfect pair? When you pursue men, you want to have stuff to talk to them about, so find out all about him so that you are prepared.

3. Find common ground

Now, you have discovered all the details about him. It’s time to pursue things even further. Maybe join a club at school that you know he would be interested in. For example, if you know his favorite sport is golf and you also play, consider joining a golf group where you can accidentally bump into him and meet that way. 

4. Talk to him

Eventually, as much as it probably puts butterflies in your stomach, you will have to talk to this guy to show you are interested in him. You don’t have to pursue him in an overwhelming way; just be yourself and talk about the things the two of you have in common. “I had no idea you were also into golf; it’s my favorite sport! Want to play?”

5. Ask questions

Once you have had your initial conversation, it’s time to keep the dialog going. A woman often struggles more with this than a guy does because men are used to being in the hot seat; women aren’t. A woman may have to be a little craftier with her questions and the way she approaches things with men. You don’t want to come across as too forward!

The best way for a woman to approach a conversation is to ask open-ended questions. That means asking questions that require more than just a yes or no response. As a woman, this can be challenging, but women are also creative, so just think of unique ways to approach the conversation, and you’ll do just fine. 

6. Get to know him

You now know about his interests and have started talking to him; it’s time for you to talk together and get to know each other in a real way. For some women, this can be challenging, especially if they are shy. However, how else are you, as a woman, going to get to know this person better if you don’t talk to one another?

7. Check him out on social media

check him out on social media

You don’t have to stalk him on social media, but this is a great way to get to know him better. Women are often talented at learning technology fast, and they can learn how to be sneaky when it comes to social media. Some women view this as stalking, but other women have learned how to do this without being too obvious. Find out what he loves.

8. Let him know you are interested

At some point, he will need to know that you are interested in a relationship with him. You don’t have to say it like that, but try to tell him you have a thing for him in a subtle way. Maybe have an “extra” ticket to his favorite sporting event or something like that. Women often don’t enjoy approaching men, as they believe they should let them do it.

However, women are just as capable as men in asking men out or pursuing a relationship with them. Love has been built on stranger things. Anything can happen when love is in the air, and if he feels the same about you, you may have a true romance blossom.

9. Go out on a group date

As you go through the process of pursuing a person, you may want to let him lead just a little bit. Nothing is easier than a group date, though. It’s one of the first ways to move the relationship to the next level.

10. Ask him out on a one-on-one date

While this may be tough, how else will you discover if love is in the air? You can do this casually, too. You don’t have to profess your love for him on the first date or anything like that. Just let him know you are interested in something great.

11. Make a move

While I do recommend letting the gentleman make the first move, nothing says a girl can’t do her part. Just let your fingers touch when you walk to see if he will make the first move and hold your hand.

Even More Ways to Make a Connection

Remember that if you chase a guy, you are letting him have all the leverage; the ball is in his court. If you want him to chase you instead, you will have to use your charm and play hard to get – not the most fun dating game, but often a very effective one. I don’t recommend playing games and pretending to be someone you are not when dating because the truth will out. 

Instead, show interest in your man by looking irresistible. Look your sexiest, and he won’t be able to resist you. Sure, it takes a little bit of work, but it will be worth it if he asks you out. All men are different, though. Some men are shyer than others and would prefer to answer questions and get to know you via their mobile device rather than in person. 

If you are up for a connection via mobile phone, there’s nothing wrong with that. Many relationships are built this way. I met my man on a dating website! Find what will work best for the two of you, and go from there. The process of pursuing a man isn’t that much different; you just need to have a good deal of questions for him to answer so that you can know him better.

Can You Have a Happy Ending?

can you have a happy ending

Many women have trouble believing in a fairy tale ending. These women feel like that kind of romance is something out of reach. It isn’t the easiest thing in life to find the perfect person for you, and it can be even harder to go after a man to find the right one. However, something, maybe not a castle and a prince, is possible and can be equally wonderful. 

I know this because I met the right man after years of playing chase with frogs. We’ve now been together for ten years, and I couldn’t be happier. Don’t get me wrong; it isn’t easy, but we work at it, and we’ve found a comfortable destination with one another. We both feel lucky to have found one other after first dating all the wrong people at parties that we didn’t want to go to.

The Washington Post agrees with me, too. In their article, they explain how a relationship can be formed after chasing frogs for so long. Use your wits to find the perfect match for you. The author explains that anything is possible with the right attitude. Her Prince Charming cares more about her happiness than his own, and that’s exactly the way I feel on the subject!


How do you keep a man from pursuing you?

Many women don’t enjoy being pursued by men but would rather choose the men they want and go from there. If that’s you, the best move you can make is to let guys know that dating you is not a possibility. Honesty can make all the difference in the world.

How do you make a man feel needed and respected?

In the case of making a difference in a man’s life, you should let him know your feelings are in line with his. People like direct communication, a thing that’s often missing in one’s love life. Show interest in his work life, and listen with care. This stuff shows love.

Do men like to be chased?

Many men do like to be the person being chased; it means that someone out there wants to be in a relationship with them. Sometimes, it seems like a game when you are chasing a man, but try to enjoy the challenge of the game and pursue them with confidence.

How do you make him chase you in a relationship?

The best answer to this question depends on your definition of the game of being chased by men. Some teenagers find dates easy to come by when being chased by using social media. Regardless of your age, though, you should play hard to get if you want to be chased.

What makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman?

The process of falling in love doesn’t always come easy. For some people, there are pain points involved in dating, as they search more and more for the right person. Men who are looking for love want to be respected and cared for. They want to quit having multiple relationships. 

In Conclusion

How has this content spoken to you? Do you have more tips you should share with our readers? What has your experience been like? Do you have the secret to dating a man? We’d love to hear a word from you in order to help our readers. Please comment below!

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