We've all been there. Those moments where you are not feeling sexy and you look in the mirror, pull at your love handles, suck in your cheeks, and wish you could tweak some parts of your body. Perhaps, you feel your hips are too narrow or too small or your shoulders are too broad, and if only they were a tad slimmer, your dating life would be so much better.
The truth is, these feelings are not new, and they happen even to the best of us, including some celebrities you look up to as icons, as studies show that 69%-84% of women are unsatisfied with their bodies.
So, while it might seem easy to tell a woman to snap out of her depression or get over the negative feelings she harbors for her body, such advice never really works and is not sustainable in the long run.
The key to feeling sexy every day starts with making minor changes to your daily life, meaning true sexiness is something you should do for YOU without waiting till date night to channel your inner mojo. On that note, here are 51 ways to feel sexy. The best news of it all is that many of these tips are exciting and fun, allowing you to connect better with your body and mind.
- 1 51 Ways To Feel Sexy
- 1.1 1. Invest in skincare
- 1.2 2. Travel occasionally
- 1.3 3. Play around with makeup
- 1.4 4. Try new hairstyles
- 1.5 5. Invest in sexy lingerie
- 1.6 6. Practice mindfulness
- 1.7 7. Be confident in yourself
- 1.8 8. Go au naturale
- 1.9 9. Get active
- 1.10 10. Take your time when dressing
- 1.11 11. Repeat words of affirmations
- 1.12 12. Wear tights
- 1.13 13. Light scented candles
- 1.14 14. Spend a day in something sexy
- 1.15 15. Take pictures of yourself
- 1.16 16. Roleplay
- 1.17 17. Make a spicy meal
- 1.18 18. Get a support group
- 1.19 19. Display your achievements
- 1.20 20. Be true to yourself
- 1.21 21. Don't talk too fast
- 1.22 22. Learn basic etiquettes
- 1.23 23. Accept your imperfections
- 1.24 24. Ditch the sweatpants
- 1.25 25. Get a wax
- 1.26 26. Pleasure yourself
- 1.27 27. Research your body type
- 1.28 28. Invest in clothes that flatter
- 1.29 29. Have a signature perfume
- 1.30 30. Maintain good hygiene
- 1.31 31. Maintain a good posture
- 1.32 32. Wear heels
- 1.33 33. Add a touch of red
- 1.34 34. Groom your nails
- 1.35 35. Make a feel-good playlist
- 1.36 36. Play around with your room decor
- 1.37 37. Try yoga
- 1.38 38. Dance
- 1.39 39. Lounge around your home naked
- 1.40 40. Unplug from social media
- 1.41 41. Focus on the things that make you feel amazing
- 1.42 42. Get a good night's sleep
- 1.43 43. Journal
- 1.44 44. Communicate with your partner
- 1.45 45. Have a pamper day
- 1.46 46. Read an erotic novel
- 1.47 47. Be a tease and engage in PDA
- 1.48 48. Stop comparing yourself to others
- 1.49 49. Have sex
- 1.50 50. Smile more often
- 1.51 51. Avoid negative conversations
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Conclude
51 Ways To Feel Sexy
1. Invest in skincare
Investing in skincare means being conscious of the products you use and dedicating time and effort to care for your skin like never going to bed with your makeup, applying sunscreen, and avoiding products with harmful chemicals. These steps will help ensure that your skin stays plump, supple, and smooth even as you age, and are left feeling sexy every day.
In other words, you must start by loving your body, so ensure that you commit to investing both your time and money into buying quality (not necessarily expensive) skin products.
2. Travel occasionally
While traveling might seem like an unlikely way to feel sexy, it is pretty effective. You see, when you travel, you open yourself to meeting new people and experiencing new cultures. These types of adventures make you a more informed and well-rounded person, not to mention mysterious.
In addition, all that walking and movement people do when traveling improves your stamina and makes you feel more energized. Feeling sexy isn't just about looks; it's also about your intellect and the ability to love fiercely irrespective of cultural differences – all attributes that traveling affords.
3. Play around with makeup
While men have their beards and hair to mess around with when aiming for the perfect look, we ladies have been blessed with colors. I find it unusual to see women who feel wearing makeup will make them look superficial and shallow.
Admittedly, being addicted to makeup to a point where you are ashamed of your natural looks is terrible. However, this should not stop you from using a little powder, foundation, eyebrow pencil, or lipstick to enhance your features now and then and look more put together.
4. Try new hairstyles
We all have different face shapes, which goes a long way to influence the hairstyles that falter us. To look beautiful and sexy, don't be afraid to try new hairstyles, colors, and cuts. By doing so, you will eventually settle for one or two looks that make you feel beautiful.
5. Invest in sexy lingerie
Out with the old, saggy, and worn-out granny pants and in with more sexy, breathable, and quality underwear. Quit saving your ‘good' lingerie for when times when you are expecting to have sex. Instead, invest in sexy lingerie, which you can wear every day.
From my experience, I find that wearing lacy or silk matching lingerie on a normal day makes me feel sexy, even when no one can see it, so you might want to consider doing this too.
6. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness is achieved when you learn to focus on the present while being aware of your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Mindfulness allows you to be deliberate with your actions and keeps you calm. The benefits of mindfulness can make you feel sexy because it improves your charisma and rids you of negative energy.
7. Be confident in yourself
Some of the sexiest people do not have sex appeal because they look perfect. For the most part, it's because they are confident in their bodies. The fact is, if you do not feel confident about yourself, it will be hard for other people to notice your sex appeal, irrespective of what you wear or how you look.
8. Go au naturale
While makeup is a fun way to play with colors and enhance your features, you don't have to always rely on it to have a sex appeal. Sometimes, a bare, natural look is what you need to show the world your authenticity and to get you feeling good.
So don't stress over the perfect bun or well-trimmed eyebrows. Instead, rock your tousled hair, moisturize your lips, and embrace every inch of your natural beauty.
9. Get active
Physical activity is one of the easiest ways to feel sexy. You see, exercise is known to help your brain relax by encouraging it to release feel-good hormones, making it easy to feel more in control of your body and appearance. So while getting active and exercising can help with weight loss or make you feel stronger, it will also remind you of all the amazing things you can do.
10. Take your time when dressing
We live in a fast-paced world that idolizes being busy, and as such, many of us take pride in multitasking. Admittedly, there is nothing wrong with multitasking. However, making it a habit and something you frequently do can cause you to miss out on the simple pleasures of life, like dressing up.
Next time you dress up, take your time to cream your body and put on some makeup. Being slow and mindful during this activity will enable you to notice and appreciate your body more, making you feel sexy.
11. Repeat words of affirmations
Engaging in an affirmation exercise can have you feeling sexy instantly. Affirmation exercises involve you looking in the mirror and reciting positive compliments to yourself. Think of the words you wish people said to you, such as you are beautiful, or you are unique. This type of exercise allows you to appreciate your body and how well it serves you.
Admittedly, at the initial stage, this exercise might seem forced. However, they will become second nature with continuous practice, and you will find yourself feeling effortlessly sensual.
12. Wear tights
Many people will agree that tights, especially black tights, are alluring and seductive. They are figure-forming, making your curves easier to flaunt. In addition, if you have spots on your leg or forgot to shave your legs, tights can help give your legs a smooth and sexy finish while making your legs appear longer.
13. Light scented candles
Talk about setting the mood with candles. Candles are straight-up sexy, and it's not just about their light; it's also about the smell. Choose candles with sensual and woodsy scents to instantly feel sensual as they tend to be associated with sex. Besides, everyone looks good in candlelight, so candles are a sure way to have you feeling good about your body.
14. Spend a day in something sexy
Thanks to the pandemic, many of us cannot remember the last time we had to put on a bra; after all, you can spend the entire day in your pajamas, and no one would care. While this is convenient, it can also make you think less of yourself.
If you want to feel sexy, consider spending a day in a sexy outfit and watch your energy change. So whether you are vacuuming, watching TV or eating cereal, or watching TV, wear something that makes you feel great and sexy.
15. Take pictures of yourself
Do you feel you look different in photos than when looking in the mirror? You are not alone. The reason is ‘the mere-exposure hypothesis,' which means we are used to seeing ourselves in reverse when we look in the mirror. So, when we see ourselves in photos, it is different from what our brain knows. As such, we are drawn to all our imperfections.
The solution is not to avoid photos. Instead, take more pictures and avoid filters. This will allow you to become familiar with your face in the camera and less likely to see your imperfections., offering you a confidence boost and a sexy feeling.
There's a reason why many women see the need to change their style and hair after breakups and why Halloween and costume parties are so much fun.
Switching roles and taking up different personalities and clothes can be liberating. It allows us to take a break from our usual selves or over-analyzing how we look and people's perceptions of us. Unleash your inner diva today by getting out of character and taking up a sexy role.
17. Make a spicy meal
One way to feel sexy is by doing things that release endorphins, the feel-good hormones. For instance, hot peppers are known to release the same hormones as sex does, so cooking a spicy meal can leave you feeling a little more than good… but sexy.
Just remember not to go overboard with the spice so you don’t move from pleasure to pain, as a little pepper can go a long way.
18. Get a support group
You probably don't feel sexy because you are unable to think positively about yourself. It is especially easy for people to think less of themselves when they do not have a support system or someone to cheer them on.
Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you, people who want to see you succeed, and people who compliment you and celebrate your wins, however little.
19. Display your achievements
Display your achievements around your home or office and use them to remind yourself of all the amazing things you can do. By displaying your trophies, medals, and photos of your happiest moments on the shelves and walls, even when you are feeling low and in doubt of your abilities, they will be there to remind you of your awesomeness.
20. Be true to yourself
Everyone in this world is different, and no two persons can ever be the same. With this knowledge, you should learn to embrace the things that make you unique, own them and find new ways to improve your character. There is nothing as unsexy as watching someone try to be who they aren't. It is unattractive and cringey to watch, so stay true to yourself at all times.
21. Don't talk too fast
While there is nothing wrong with speaking fast or loud, it can make you look aggressive or angry even when your words are well-intentioned. Besides, notice how sexual the leading ladies in movies spoke, especially those in the early 20th century.
Women like Grace Kelly, Marilyn Monroe, and Audrey Hepburn were soft-spoken yet eloquent. They rarely spoke fast or loud but were slow and sexual. So learn to emulate this to feel sexier.
22. Learn basic etiquettes
Etiquettes help us know how to interact and treat people, including strangers. It encourages humility, consideration, and kindness as it shows that you can value and respect people. Therefore, to have a sex appeal, you should learn basic etiquette to boost your social interactions and make you self-confident when dealing with different life situations.
23. Accept your imperfections
No one is perfect, and our imperfections are part of what makes us beautiful. I have seen women who shrink themselves and avoid certain clothes because they are ashamed of their imperfections. As understandable as this is, it can rob you of the opportunity to live a happy and fulfilled life.
Embrace your imperfections, understand that your imperfection is nothing more than a minor flaw, and many other things make you awesome.
24. Ditch the sweatpants
Just because you have nowhere to be or work from home doesn't mean you need to spend the entire day lounging in your pajamas or sweatpants. Staying in sweatpants can easily make you feel unsexy and unmotivated.
Learn to change out of your joggers or pajamas and wear lovely loungewear. There are different loungewear options out there that can have you looking and feeling sexy.
25. Get a wax
If you are unfamiliar or have never gotten a wax, I am here to tell you that it is a game-changer. This simple act of self-care can make you feel more feminine and sensual. It leaves your ‘lady bits' exposed, causing more sensitivity – in a good way. Besides, it feels good to run your hands across a hairless and smooth leg.
26. Pleasure yourself
Touching yourself can be as simple as taking your time to brush your mane to something full-on like masturbating. Self-pleasure allows you to connect with your sense of eroticism and fantasy life. It enables you to explore your body, understand it better, and maintain a healthy sex life.
27. Research your body type
As a young girl and teenager, I knew very little about my body type or shape; all that mattered to me regarding fashion was staying on top of the trends. However, as I have gotten older, I realize that dressing in ways that flatter my body type is a way to look sexy instantly.
Observe yourself and if possible, measure your shoulders, bust, waist, and hips to understand your body type and different cuts that will flatter your shape.
28. Invest in clothes that flatter
As mentioned earlier, it is essential to know your body type and dress accordingly. That's because different body types work best with a variety of clothes, fabrics, and patterns. Therefore understanding and investing in clothing that makes you look more feminine and curvy will leave you feeling sexy within minutes.
29. Have a signature perfume
If you are wondering how to feel sexy and appeal to men, a signature perfume is the answer. A signature is an extension of your personality and style – it makes people remember you. However, you might want to consider getting a new perfume that smells nice and sexy as it will make you feel sexier.
30. Maintain good hygiene
No amount of makeup, nail polish, or designer clothes will make you feel sexy and appealing if you do not maintain good hygiene and look clean. Something as simple as taking a shower, ironing your clothes, and brushing your hair can go a long way to make you look put together and sexy without trying too hard.
31. Maintain a good posture
A slouched posture will make you look and feel anything but sexy. If you doubt me, take a look at professional dancers and athletes – they all maintain good posture with their hips and shoulders perfectly aligned. Ensure that you pay attention to your posture throughout the day and always adopt a power pose to feel sexier.
32. Wear heels
A few things can make a girl feel instantly sexy, and strapping a pair of heels is one of them. Admittedly, heels can sometimes feel uncomfortable and downright painful after being in them for a while. Nevertheless, it is an easy way to feel like Lara Croft or Taylor Swift instantly.
Heels can improve a woman's posture, leading to changes in how her body moves and emphasizing femininity. Besides, people who wear heels are considered more attractive, so get your cards out and go shopping for a comfortable pair of heels.
33. Add a touch of red
Experts say red is a sensual color associated with passion, sex, and excitement. So if you want to get your heart pumping and feel sexy, add a touch of red to your outfits or home decor. A few suggestions include putting a rose in the middle of your dining table, strawberries, or putting on red lipstick next time you go out.
34. Groom your nails
Your nails are one of those small but significant parts of your body that can contribute immensely to your overall appearance. Not only does a well-manicured nail look great, but it can also make you feel and look put together and classy. So even if you can't afford a full-blown manicure and pedicure session, endeavor to trim your nails and keep them looking clean.
35. Make a feel-good playlist
Music is good for the soul, and just like other forms of art like literature and paintings. Music can put you in a good mood. If you want to be sexual, you can go for smooth jazz or any genre of music that excites and makes you feel sexier. This will help you relax and embrace your sexuality.
36. Play around with your room decor
Your bedroom is a sacred part of your home, and it is one of the most precise expressions of how you think of yourself. As such, to be sexual, you might want to consider playing around with your room decor. For instance, warm lights, rugs, plants, and mirrors will make your room look sexual, influencing you to feel sexy.
37. Try yoga
If you're struggling with your body and do not feel your sexiest at the moment, perhaps you should consider yoga. Physical practices like deep breathing, yoga, and other kinds of slow movements can help you connect better with yourself, boost your mood, and encourage your libido.
Similar to how working out makes you release feel-good hormones, dancing is also a great physical activity that can improve your mood and leave you feeling sexy. Make it a habit to dance in your room even when no one is watching or register for pole dancing lessons. The idea is to get used to the pleasure and sensuality of moving your hips and body.
39. Lounge around your home naked
Talk about a classic way to turn the heat up – get naked and spend time with yourself. I know you're probably wondering how much more time you can spend with yourself, but hear me out. Many women are ashamed of seeing themselves naked because of their insecurities, so spending time naked will help you study and appreciate your body from different angles.
While social media has many benefits, it also shares a portion of the blame for the body dysmorphia many women experiences. If you compare your body to celebrities and people on social media, perhaps you should consider unplugging from social media as it will help you get in touch with reality and reduce the comparisons.
41. Focus on the things that make you feel amazing
Sometimes, the best way to feel good is to take a break from worrying about your insecurities. For instance, instead of wondering if a dress flatters you, ask yourself if you feel comfortable in it. There is a natural confidence that comes with feeling comfortable in your own skin.
42. Get a good night's sleep
Stress and exhaustion can steal away your sexiness. Therefore, you should consider getting a good night's sleep. Try to get eight or more hours of uninterrupted sleep every night, as this will leave you feeling refreshed.
Stress and anxiety can contribute to making you feel unsexy. However, writing down your thoughts and feelings will help you control your emotions and improve your mental health and self-esteem. To make journaling a habit, you might want to consider adding it to your nighttime routine or a time when you are relaxed.
44. Communicate with your partner
If you're married or in a relationship, it is okay to tell your partner about your feelings. Perhaps, you feel sex is a little lackluster, or there is pressure to match his performance. Either way, finding ways to discuss these feelings with your partner can help you work through your emotions and strengthen your relationship.
45. Have a pamper day
You are a goddess and deserve to honor yourself as one by dedicating a day to pampering yourself. It doesn't have to be anything big – a long shower, a strong cup of coffee or glass of cocktail, a manicure, or a delicious meal are some ways in which you can pamper yourself. The idea is to give yourself the treat to enable you to feel validated and sexy.
46. Read an erotic novel
Reading an erotic novel can be a confidence boost. Besides being a form of entertainment, it engages all your senses, allowing you to immerse yourself in the story fully. Besides, the mere thought that you are reading something racy can give you a sexy feeling.
47. Be a tease and engage in PDA
If you're in a relationship, now is a good time to mess with your partner's feelings – in a good way. For instance, don't get dressed immediately after a shower. Instead, put on a loosely tied robe that allows him to gain glimpses of your body – it will get him turned on and have you feeling really hot.
In addition, don't shy away from flirting with your partner in public – share kisses, hugs, and stroke each other, it improves the sexual tension in your relationship.
48. Stop comparing yourself to others
They say comparison is the killer of joy. So, why waste so much time and energy comparing your body to other people when you can channel that energy into loving yourself more. It will surprise you to know that many people are dealing with insecurities, and as such, you shouldn't let yours get the best of you.
Instead, learn to embrace them and focus on flaunting the features you love.
49. Have sex
This is an obvious item on the list because having sex with someone you find attractive can leave you feeling sexy, improve your health, and give you a more youthful appearance. Besides, if you are in a relationship, this will strengthen your bond with your partner.
50. Smile more often
Your smile is one of the first things people see when they meet you. Besides, when you smile, it forces your body to get happy and feel good. So, if you want to improve your sex appeal, smiling will help you achieve it and trigger a positive response from the people you encounter.
51. Avoid negative conversations
I understand that you might think discussing unattractive parts of your own body with your friends and hearing them discuss theirs will make you feel better. While this is true in some way, don't make it a habit. Instead of complaining, learn to compliment your friends and have them compliment you. Affirming each other's sexiness will leave you feeling confident and sexy.
The best way to look sexy is to own your imperfections, be kind to your body, and get some confidence. Confidence comes when you love yourself and every inch of your body. So while you may not be perfect, you can learn to wear clothing that accentuates your curves and look well-groomed – this will make you look sexier.
Sexiness in a woman is not just about looking good or being beautiful. It is about being beautiful inside out – a woman who is fun, confident, understanding, compassionate, and intelligent can attract any man she wants.
While some people are indeed naturally beautiful, it is also true that true beauty comes from the inside. So even though you don't feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, simple things like wearing well-tailored and fashionable outfits, looking groomed, and fit, and maintaining a good posture can go a long way to make you look hot and attractive.
As women, we are blessed with curves that make us look naturally attractive. However, there are a few things you can do to enhance your sexiness, such as maintaining eye contact when talking to a guy, keeping your voice low, and wearing a touch of red.
Most guys will admit that seeing a woman with an hourglass body shape creates an instant attraction. This body shape features a woman with an upper-body that equals her hips but a narrow waist. Scientists believe this is because the body type signals to guys that the woman has good childbearing potential.
It is normal for anyone to question their sexiness. However, it is vital to remember that sexiness is from the inside out; you have to feel it to be it. Hopefully, you enjoyed reading this list on how to feel sexy and will use it to elevate your sexiness. Also, don't forget to share it with your friends who do not know how to feel sexy and leave a comment behind.
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.