No matter whether you have been dating for a very long time or have been together only for a short time, your boyfriend thinking about breaking up with you is bound to put you in so much pain. The condition becomes much more difficult if you do not feel the same way and the break is not mutually agreed upon.
Believe me, I’ve been in such a situation where I spent my time wondering what I did wrong and how I could get my man back. After spending so much time on my relationship, I wanted things to work out and was ready to do my part to save our relationship.
I eventually learned that before starting afresh and fully forgiving my boyfriend, I needed to make certain changes in myself and discuss the same with him.
In today’s article, we are going to look at tips to convince your boyfriend to stay with you that will work. These tips will not only make your boyfriend stay but will also fill your life with much love and happiness.
- 1 How To Convince Your Boyfriend To Stay With You
- 2 Even After All The Convincing, Is He Leaving You Only A Matter Of Time?
- 3 FAQs
- 4 In Conclusion
How To Convince Your Boyfriend To Stay With You
1. Have a heart-to-heart talk
If you feel that your relationship is worth fighting for then the best thing to do is to talk with your man. This does not mean that you have to take full responsibility for all the things wrong in your relationship and lose your self-respect, rather you should discuss how you both can work on your difference of opinions and save your relationship.
You should be totally honest during these conversations and let him know how you feel. If you have made a big mistake like having an affair when in the relationship then it is natural that your partner might be having a hard time forgiving you. In such a case, the good thing to do is to give your partner some space and make a promise that you will never repeat this mistake.
2. Show some maturity
For relationships to work, the two partners involved must be mature to handle the challenges that come up in a relationship. If you are a lying, crazy girlfriend who is always looking for drama then it is only a matter of time before your relationship will break. In such a case, the only thing that will convince him to stay is when he will notice a change in your behavior.
Understandably, changing your old habits is not easy but even small efforts from your side will create a difference and make your partner forgive you for your mistakes.
3. Hear them out
Other than telling your partner how you feel, it is also equally important that you try to understand what they are feeling. There are chances that they might be hurt by something that you might have done in the past and you might not even have an idea about it.
Therefore, it is important that instead of fighting, you have open communication with your partner and accept your mistakes. This small effort from your side might convince your partner to stay and fix your relationship and stay with their family.
4. Be calm
Everybody wants to come home and have peaceful, love-filled talks with their partner rather than a screaming match. If you are a woman who can see only shortcomings in his partner and keeps him nagging for the same then you need to change yourself soon and hope that your partner is ready to start afresh.
There might be times when you might think that your partner is not doing things your way. In this case, for the sake of relationships, it is better to forgive your partner if there are small mistakes from his side.
5. Stand for your self-respect
Understand that agreeing to everything all the time about what your partner says cannot convince him to stay.
This kind of attitude will only make him take you for granted and make him think that you are dependent on him. Your pleading can only make him hang on to the relationship for a little more, but, unfortunately, it won't be forever. Understand that if someone needs to be convinced to be with their family, they are not right for you!
6. Try to understand him
Different people have different preferences when it comes to showing and receiving love so try to understand what your partner is looking for and then provide the same. This should not require much effort as all you need to do is be more attentive to his needs and pay attention, just like you used to do when you were dating.
7. Work on yourself
If you want your man to never leave then you must pay attention to yourself – both mentally and physically. So other than keeping calm and being understanding towards your man, you should also make it a point to look physically appealing. A little effort from your side will ensure that your man does not leave you and your family.
Even After All The Convincing, Is He Leaving You Only A Matter Of Time?
If even after all your efforts, your man is not convinced to stay then it is better to let him go. Remember, your pleadings and your tears can stop him only for a while, but a bond built on pity won't stay forever. There are chances that his decision to break up might not have anything to do with you; therefore, no amount of effort can stop him!
Yes, letting go will indeed be difficult, but sometimes it is the only option. There is no point in being in a marriage, which makes both of you unhappy. Therefore, even if he decides to part ways, try to make sure it is mutual and without any hard feelings, especially if kids are involved.
As a last resort, you can try visiting a counselor who can help you work on your bond and make your relationship stronger.
The above-mentioned tips can help you to make your man stay. If these tips or any of your other efforts can also not convince him to stay then it is time for you to put your energy somewhere else. You should understand that only begging and tears won't stop him – at least not permanently!
When your boyfriend breaks up with you, first of all, you need to try to talk to him and find his reason for the breakup. You must also let him know about your feelings and hope that he stays in the relationship. You may want to make efforts for him to stay but first consider if he is a right match for you.
You can try small ways like giving space to your boyfriend, showing matching, and showing maturity, which might change your boyfriend’s mind and convince him to stay. However, understand sometimes things are so bad that it is only wise to break things off.
Start by acknowledging the fact that you love this man but cannot be together due to the hurt and differences between you two. Talk to your boyfriend only after you are completely sure so that you do not regret your decision later. Let him know the real reason for you wanting to leave and make sure that you do not keep any contact with him after the breakup.
Start by leaving home to go on a girl’s trip and once on this trip, make him miss you more by not contacting him much. Let him take the initiative and refrain from saying ‘yes’ to everything that he says. Also, make sure to make the time you spend with him magical and exciting so he would always want to be with you.
Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted the other person to stay but could not do anything to make them understand how you felt? What did you do? Please share your experience, we would love to hear from you!
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.