Text messages make it ten times more difficult to tell what the other person means. You don't get to read their body language. There is no tone to tell if they are happy or angry.
Emojis can be helpful, but they are not the only way to tell if a guy likes you. Guys do certain things in messages when they are interested in a girl.
Guys still exhibit certain behaviors when they like you. If you know what to look for, you’ll easily be able to tell if he sees more than friendship in your future! Likewise, you’ll be able to tell if he’s being distant and doesn’t want anything more with you.
- 1 How Guys Text When They Like You
- 1.1 1. He Sends You A Good Morning Text
- 1.2 2. He Texts Back Fast
- 1.3 3. He Double Texts
- 1.4 4. He Tries To Get To Know You
- 1.5 5. He Goes Out Of His Way To Make You Laugh
- 1.6 6. He Asks About Your Love Life
- 1.7 7. Pay Attention To His Emojis
- 1.8 8. He Finds A Reason To Text You
- 1.9 9. You Joke With Each Other
- 1.10 10. He Initiates Conversations With The First Text
- 1.11 11. Watch For Etiquette Rules
- 1.12 12. He Compliments You
- 1.13 13. He Lets You Know If He’s Busy
- 1.14 14. He Doesn’t Just Text You When He’s Bored
- 1.15 15. He Says Something Reminded You Of Him
- 1.16 16. You Get Cute Nicknames
- 1.17 17. His Texting Style Is Different
- 1.18 18. It Seems Like His Getting-To-Know-You Questions Are Weird
- 1.19 19. He Asks About Relationships But Avoids Discussing Past Relationships
- 1.20 20. Daily Texts
- 1.21 21. He’s Responsive To Your Texts
- 1.22 22. He’s Supportive
- 1.23 23. He’s Never Mad
- 2 What Should You Text Him Back If You Like Him?
- 3 FAQs
- 4 In Conclusion
How Guys Text When They Like You
1. He Sends You A Good Morning Text
Guys don’t waste a lot of time in the morning texting hundreds of girls, contrary to what we might think sometimes. If a guy likes you, he is more likely to send you that sweet text in the morning.
2. He Texts Back Fast
A guy who likes you will text you back faster than one who is only mildly interested. If his texts are always coming back fast unless he’s busy, it’s because he likes you! Guys that don’t might text right back, but they won’t be as consistent with this as guys that do.
3. He Double Texts
We double text to keep the conversation going. When a guy isn’t feeling you, he’ll be fine waiting to talk to you again. Guys that want to get to know you want to talk to you more, so he’ll send the occasional double text as long as he doesn’t think he looks desperate.
4. He Tries To Get To Know You
If he likes you, he’ll want to know more about you to determine how compatible the two of you are. He’ll ask questions about future life goals, dreams, or hobbies. A guy that is interested in you is interested in your life too.
5. He Goes Out Of His Way To Make You Laugh
Once you find something funny, expect a guy that likes you to do it again. You can also expect to see a little bit of his sense of humor. This is a guy’s default when they are trying to make you laugh.
6. He Asks About Your Love Life
If he’s not sure what your status is, he’ll ask or bring it up. Some men won’t ask specifically if you are single. Instead, they’ll make a comment about your boyfriend. Then, when you respond with info regarding your boyfriend, it shows that you’re in a relationship. If you state that you don’t have one, he knows that you’re single.
7. Pay Attention To His Emojis
Guys that use emojis will eventually send you a smiley face, and then some heart eyes. This is a casual way to show that they are interested in you. Then, expect them to gauge your response to determine if you are interested in them too. When you are interested in knowing more about a guy back, reciprocate with some kissy emojis. Keep in mind that some guys don’t use emojis, so don’t worry about a guy not using heart eyes.
8. He Finds A Reason To Text You
Guys that are on the shy side might not feel comfortable starting a conversation with you. In this case, they might find reasons to text you. For example, he might randomly message you about something he knows that you have an interest in.
9. You Joke With Each Other
As you get closer, you’ll notice that you two share jokes a lot. You get more playful, joke around with each other, and find that some conversations have you smiling at your phone almost non-stop.
10. He Initiates Conversations With The First Text
When a guy likes you, they will make the first move. In the world of texting, the first move is the first text. Texts first thing in the morning counts too! After he gets the conversation going, expect him to want to keep it going.
11. Watch For Etiquette Rules
Guys that like you do one of two things when it comes to texting etiquette: either they follow them to a tee or they all go out the window. He might respond fast because he wants to talk to you.
At the same time, he might wait an exact time so he doesn’t appear too needy, as is the current advice online. It won’t flow naturally if he does the latter. You can tell if he is texting based on those rules by watching for patterns, like if he always texts back half an hour later.
12. He Compliments You
Guys compliment girls when they like them. They do this on dates, in conversations that take place in person, and via texts. If his texts have the occasional “I love your style/hair/whatever” thrown in them, it’s because he likes you. He also likes specific things about you.
13. He Lets You Know If He’s Busy
When we like someone, we don’t want to leave them waiting for texts for hours. Guys also don’t want you to think that they are blowing you off or not interested. The more he likes you, the more likely he is to let you know what he has going on in case you don’t get texts back as fast as you normally do.
14. He Doesn’t Just Text You When He’s Bored
None of us like to admit it, but we all have those people that we text because we’re bored. It’s something to do. When a man likes you, he texts you when he’s busy too. You’re much more than just a way to fill an empty slot in his daily schedule.
15. He Says Something Reminded You Of Him
Guys are not always the best at saying that they like you, or expressing their feelings. This means that you have to keep an eye out for subtle hints. If he says that he was thinking about or that he saw something and thought of you, it means that he likes you.
16. You Get Cute Nicknames
Instead of calling you by your name, he’s suddenly started testing out cute nicknames. He will call you boo or babe instead. If you don’t object, you can expect to keep hearing those cute nicknames. This is also a sure-fire sign that he likes you. Guys use nicknames in a text when they like you to test them out first, so keep that in mind when responding.
If a guy uses a nickname you don’t like, make sure that you offer a substitute nickname in place of it. That shows him that you like him back, but simply don’t like the nickname itself.
17. His Texting Style Is Different
One of the key ways to tell whether he likes you is by knowing how guys text when they like you. Expect paragraphs over time. Texts will include questions, interesting things, and emojis. One-word answers are rare unless he’s busy or at work. These other clues of how guys text when they like you will help you determine if his texting style says he’s interested:
- More emoji use
- Texting quick responses even though he’s in the middle of something
- Longer texts than you would get if you were his friend
- It feels more like a conversation than random texting
Everyone has a different texting style, but when a guy likes you, he’ll show at least one of these in his texts with you. This is because he’s trying to show you that he’s interested while simultaneously getting to know you.
18. It Seems Like His Getting-To-Know-You Questions Are Weird
We’re all used to the standard “what’s your favorite color?” When a guy really likes you, he might ask you questions that seem a bit out of the box.
For example, if you could create a reality television show, what would it be about? (I once created an entire YouTube series about tiny hamsters in body armor, and developed a line of hamster body armor with someone I was texting as a result of one such question.) It’s because he wants to keep things fun.
When a guy who likes you is talking to you, he won’t want to come off as boring because he doesn’t want you to become uninterested. He might do this because it makes you smile too!
19. He Asks About Relationships But Avoids Discussing Past Relationships
When a guy is interested in you, he’ll want to know what being in a relationship with you is like. For example, are you clingy, ambitious, like to message your boyfriend all day, or do you prefer phone conversations instead? Simultaneously, he doesn’t want to hear about past relationships. He doesn’t like to think about you being with other men.
20. Daily Texts
Some men won’t show all of the classic symptoms of texting a girl that they like, especially if they’ve been out of the dating game for a while. In this case, pay attention to how much he texts you. Guys won’t reach out to you daily if they aren’t trying to get to know you or if they don’t like you.
21. He’s Responsive To Your Texts
Guys that are into you will not only text you right away, they will actually provide responses to your texts. If you talk about something he’s not familiar with, he’ll still try to respond to it.
22. He’s Supportive
When you mention a life goal, he encourages it. If you say you made a blog, he’ll go check it out, even though it’s a girly one. Guys that like a girl will want to support their dreams and goals, and will want to support you. They’ll ask follow-up questions, like asking about how your blog is doing later in the week.
23. He’s Never Mad
It’s easy to hide your true emotions via text message, and guys that really want to get to know you will use that to their advantage. They want to appear happy and fun, not angry or boring. So, you won’t get paragraphs of them venting about work, and you might not even know when they are mad.
What Should You Text Him Back If You Like Him?
When a man likes you, you’ll be able to tell. However, if you’d like to take things further, it’s important that you show him that you feel the same way without going over the top.
1. Texting Back Fast Is Okay
Texting him back fast is fine. Ignore the rules that state you should wait so many minutes or hours to send him one back. The outdated rule of keeping a man waiting does not apply anymore. If you want to show him you like him, text him back fast. If not, he might assume that you’re not interested.
2. Reciprocate His Emojis
Guys use Emojis to flirt with a girl. If you see him doing this as a way to have some fun, show him that you feel the same by sending him flirty Emojis back. It’ll instantly let him know that you two are on the same page.
3. Don’t Be Too Available
This is where the mix-up with texting back often happens. Most women assume that texting back fast is being too available, but it’s not. You can text while at a red light, at work, or for two seconds in the middle of a project. This does not make you appear needy or too available.
However, when he mentions meeting up, take a minute to say yes. Tell him that you have a lot of things going on, and you’ll have to make sure the day works for you. Emphasize that you are looking forward to seeing him so he doesn’t mistake this for you not being interested. It’s the perfect way to show him how you feel without being too available.
At least daily. Most men will text you to the point that it seems like they are needy. The more he likes you, the more often he will text you. Remember, consistency is key in determining if he likes you as more than a friend.
Yes! Shy guys might take longer to text first, but they’ll do it eventually. Guys text first as a way to show you that they like you. This is why they send good morning texts or paragraphs while you’re sleeping.
The most common Emojis that guys use are heart eyes or the Emoji that is a kissing face. Another Emoji used is the heart Emoji. Guys will also use flirty emojis, such as the winking face, smiling or laughing face, smirking face, the angel Emoji or the devil one.
Start by telling him that you like him to eliminate any fears of rejection that he has. Then, ask him if he likes you too. Don’t ask him in front of friends or a group of people because that will embarrass him.
If a guy is interested, he’ll put more effort into texting back fast, getting to know you, and flirting with you. Guys that are just being nice won’t send flirty Emojis, heart Emojis, text back within seconds or do other things guys typically do when they like you.
First, look for consistency in how often he texts you and whether he is responsive to your messages. Then, you can use the other items on the list to tell if he is interested. How do you tell if a guy likes you by text? What would you add to the list?
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.