Do you think that first loves are never really over? If they are never really over, how can we ever move on to the next man or woman in our love? How can we find love again? Will we be searching for this thing for the rest of our lives with no luck of finding it again?
If first loves are never really over, what does that mean for our future? Can we find a way to love again? You can move on with your life, even if you still are in love with your last love. Here’s the truth. You can be in love with more than one person at a time. You just need to choose who to spend your life with if you have more than one option.
My best advice is to get over the first love to the best of your ability and look forward, not backward. You want to think about your future and who you plan to spend it with. That is a positive way of looking at what’s in front of you, of what’s to come, not what happened in the past. Let’s explore this topic more!
- 1 Why Do We Care So Much Over Our First Loves?
- 2 Why Are First Loves Hard to Get Over?
- 3 Can You Get Over Your First Love?
- 4 FAQs
- 5 To Sum Things Up…
Why Do We Care So Much Over Our First Loves?
If you cannot get him or her out of your mind, it may be time to have no contact. That means you discuss with them the possibility of not talking in any way (text, face to face, voicemail, etc.) for a specified period of time. This can give you time to heal properly, so you can move on with someone else.
2. You have the best memories of your first love
Take the time to write in a diary or journal the memories the two of you shared. Get them all out on paper, so you can give your brain a rest. This way, you can focus on finding your next special someone.
3. You still wonder what went wrong with your fairy tale romance
It’s natural to wonder what happened to him or her. You want to know what mistakes happened so that you are not destined to repeat them. If you don’t have closure, you should talk to your ex to try to understand better what happened between the two of you.
You had all your firsts with this individual – first kiss, first time holding hands, and a mega painful and unbearable heartbreak. I get it; it’s not a fun experience to let someone go, but sometimes, that’s the best way to move on. You just have to tuck those beautiful memories away and think about what fate has in store for you for your future.
5. You still wonder “what if”
You think about what might have happened if the two of you hadn’t broken up. However, if you focus too much on what could have happened or what should have happened, you will never move on. You may find yourself stuck thinking the same thoughts, having the same nightmares, and wishing for the same things. Instead, focus on the future.
Why Are First Loves Hard to Get Over?
I know it stings a little to get dumped or to leave your first love; I’ve been there; it’s rough!
One minute you think everything is perfect between the two of you, and then, the next moment, you notice you are listening to “your song” and crying into your pillow for hours or days! That first heartbreak is the hardest one to get over because you truly thought you were in love.
The Washington Post did an article with research on this topic, and it explained that your first love is like skydiving. You remember that first time because it was your first time, not because it was the best. After that, each jump is about the same, but you always remember that original jump, because, well, it was your first memory of the experience! Does that make sense?
So, first loves are never really over because they are at the forefront of our memories. We typically think that our first relationship was the best because of who it was with, but first loves are just memorable because they are the first. You can never replace that first love because he or she shared so much with you; it was a very memorable moment in your life.
Can You Get Over Your First Love?
I believe, in part, that first loves are never really over, but you can get over them enough to find closure and move on. It may take some ice cream and a lot of tears, but you can get over your first. You just have to put some distance between you and that person. You may find it helpful to go on a “no contact” break from them, where you just don’t communicate for a period of time.
I have a clingy ex; don’t get me wrong; this time, he broke up with me, but he just wouldn’t let me go so that I could find someone new to spend my life with. We finally realized the best thing for us would be to go for a specified period of time without having contact. It actually worked like a charm! It was like, “out of sight, out of mind.” I felt free and was able to move on with my life!
After you have had time to really heal from the heartbreak from your ex, you can focus on the next thing – finding the love of your life. This isn’t an easy thing to do, but it is possible, and with dating apps and websites, it’s more possible now than ever before to find your soulmate. You just have to put a little effort into it and focus on the future, not the past.
You can get over your ex, but you will never really forget what they meant to you; it’s possible you will never get closure if you don’t let that person go for another person. First loves are special, but at some point, you must move forward with your life.
Often, you never really get over your first love because he or she shared your first relationship with you. You always wonder, in the back of your mind, what they are up to, how they are doing, and what happened between you two. For example, why did you break up?
When it comes to first loves, people, regardless of their sex, are the same. Some people never get over their first loves; other people think you must move on past your first love. Is it true that you never get over your first? Every person is different, in my opinion!
First, you need to ask, “Is it true that you can get over your first love?” Next, you need to assess when and why you broke up. Is it true that you need two weeks of recovery for each year you were together? I think that sounds about right!
You don’t have to destroy the love you felt for each other, but is it true that you can only have one true love? You can love more than one person at a time. No one wants to be cheated on, though, so I suggest loving the one you’re with.
To Sum Things Up…
Have you recently fallen in love for the first time? Do you believe people can get over their first loves? Do you think you never really get over your first love? We’d love to hear all about it! Please comment below, and share this post with others!
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.