It is never a nice feeling to be neglected in a relationship. It is important to first consider whether this partnership is worth your time and effort if your partner does not do everything that he can to ensure you are happy and feel secure and loved with him. Sure, every relationship goes through its hard times, but he should be putting in an effort to ensure your happiness.
It is important to first communicate with your partner about how you feel, this goes for any issue that arises in your relationship. No problems can be resolved without proper communication and for that matter, most issues actually arise through a lack of communication. If your partner does not know that you are feeling neglected, he cannot change his behavior.
However, if you have tried to talk to your partner about how you feel but he just does not seem to understand or he just hasn’t made a change to improve things, it is time to try another tactic.
It is important to check in with yourself during this time to consider whether this relationship is really what you want. Never lose sight of your own happiness, no matter how much you want to stay together.
Keep reading to find out what to do if you feel neglected in your relationship.
- 1 Feeling Neglected In Your Relationship
- 1.1 1. Think carefully about what you want
- 1.2 2. Spend more time together
- 1.3 3. Communicate
- 1.4 4. Stay busy
- 1.5 5. Be honest
- 1.6 6. Be kind to yourself
- 1.7 7. Spend time with your loved ones
- 1.8 8. Meet your own needs
- 1.9 9. Be honest with your partner
- 1.10 10. Be clear
- 1.11 11. Look for solutions
- 1.12 12. Look at things from his perspective
- 1.13 13. Ask for help
- 1.14 14. Remember why you love each other
- 1.15 15. Don’t compare yourself to others
- 2 FAQs
- 3 To Sum Up…
Feeling Neglected In Your Relationship
If you are feeling emotionally neglected in your partnership with your partner, it is clear that there are issues between you. It is important that you do not ignore the situation as it likely won’t disappear over time and will probably only get worse. You may even start to become resentful of your partner, a feeling you may never be able to get rid of.
If you feel lonely in your partnership, it can be extremely heartbreaking and painful. You love your partner but you just do not feel happy together. There is obviously something wrong so it is important to get to the root of the problem together. Take time to look after yourself and think about what you really want, only through doing so will you find happiness.
You may need to figure out if you are spending enough time together. This is often a cause of a feeling of emotional neglect. Perhaps one of you is extremely busy at work or is dealing with family issues. In this case, it is important to remember that this situation is likely not temporary and things will get better over time, so plan things for the future to look forward to.
1. Think carefully about what you want
If you are feeling neglected in your partnership, it is important to think deeply about what you want and whether you ever see yourself being happy in this partnership. There is no point staying with someone if you know that things are never going to change. So walk away sooner rather than later if this is the case and look after yourself.
If your partner is not willing to make a change to make you feel loved and needed, then it is likely that you are not meant to be with each other. Look for someone who will make you feel cared for.
2. Spend more time together
Often emotional neglect is caused by not spending enough time with your partner. You may feel distant from your partner because you no longer spend quality time like you used to. Even if you are both busy, it is important to place a priority on connecting with one another and deeply expressing how you feel.
Even if you can only spare half an hour a day, go for a walk together without your phones and have an open and honest conversation.
One of the most important things to do in this situation is to communicate with your partner and make it clear to him about how you feel. He may not even have realized that you have felt this way for a while. So, tell him how you feel and see whether things change. If he knows how you feel but still doesn’t make an effort to change, it may be time to think about walking away from him.
4. Stay busy
If your partner is extremely busy and is spending as much time with you as he can, it is also up to you to help the situation. Understand that your partner is busy at work and he would love to be spending more time with you but he just cannot at the present moment. Realize that this will change in the future, but keep yourself busy right now.
Throw yourself into your own work and your hobbies and you will have less time to feel lonely. Ensure you spend quality time with him as much as you can, but stay busy when you can’t.
5. Be honest
It is important, to be honest with your partner and yourself about how you are feeling. If you have realized that you are not feeling good, it is important to realize that you have made the first step in making a change. Consider whether it is actually the partnership that is making you feel this way or whether it is something else.
It can be easy to put blame on your relationship when in fact other factors are causing you to feel this way. Don’t put all of your expectations on your partnership alone. Your partner can’t be your only source of happiness.
6. Be kind to yourself
Don’t beat yourself up about feeling this way and give yourself time to realize what is going on. There is no way to rush this process but make sure to give yourself the headspace to find the root of the issues. Look after yourself and find ways to love yourself. If you do not feel good about yourself, no one will be able to love you, no matter how hard they try.
7. Spend time with your loved ones
If you are feeling neglected in your partnership, it may be because you are putting all of your expectations on your partner. Spend time with everybody that you love rather than just your partner. He cannot be the only person to make you happy. Even if you would like him to be everything, he cannot be your only source of emotional support.
8. Meet your own needs
You cannot wait for your partner to meet all of your needs if you are not looking after yourself. Try and meet your own needs before looking at someone else to make you happy and fulfilled. Put effort into looking after yourself and you will likely feel more love from your partner too when he doesn’t feel overwhelmed by having to do everything alone.
9. Be honest with your partner
You may expect your partner to be able to read your mind and know exactly what you are thinking, however, this is impossible. He is unable to know how you feel until you actually tell him. If he doesn’t act exactly the way you want to act you may get annoyed even though you never told him what you wanted. Make sure, to be honest, and communicate your emotional needs.
10. Be clear
If you want to go on a date night with your partner, tell him so. Avoid playing mind games and getting annoyed because he doesn’t read your mind. Don’t get annoyed if you haven’t been clear about what you want. Communication is so important as there is no way to change things unless you are on the same page as each other.
11. Look for solutions
Avoid becoming too negative about the situation and believing that nothing will ever change. Rather than having this mindset, look for solutions to solve the issues. Sit down with your partner and try to come up with a plan on how to move forward. Think about what you want and how you can make changes. Ask your partner what he thinks too.
12. Look at things from his perspective
It is also vital that you look at the situation from your partner’s perspective too. He may even be feeling the same way too. Perhaps you don’t show him appreciation and he is feeling neglected in the same way that you are. You may have grown apart without realizing it, but if you get to know how you both feel is the first step in making a change and having your needs met.
13. Ask for help
There is nothing wrong with realizing that you cannot resolve the situation by yourselves. If you feel like you cannot find a solution together, look for help. Go to a couples therapist and see whether this helps your relationship. You may both benefit from an outside opinion and perspective on your relationship. Remember to ask for help if you need it.
14. Remember why you love each other
It can be easy to be overwhelmed with everything that is wrong in your relationship. You may forget all of the reasons why you fell in love. Try to think back to when you first started dating and how you showed each other appreciation then. You may have both become complacent, it may just take a simple nudge to make a change.
15. Don’t compare yourself to others
It can be easy to feel neglected if you don’t feel like your relationship is as good as other people’s are. There is no way you are ever going to find happiness if you constantly compare your relationship to others. You cannot know what happens behind closed doors, focus on your own happiness rather than what other people are doing in their relationships.
Comparing your partnership to others will make it feel like yours isn’t good enough.
Emotional neglect in a relationship can be related to a feeling of loneliness. If you do not feel loved and secure with your partner, you may not be spending enough time with each other. Try scheduling date nights or time with one another to communicate each day. Without spending enough time with him, this issue will likely only get worse.
If you are being neglected, your partner is not putting enough effort into making you happy. While your happiness should not be solely related to the actions of one person, your partner should do his best to ensure you feel loved and secure with him. Communicate with him about how you feel and spend some more time with him and see whether things improve.
If you feel neglected by your husband, you may not be spending enough time with him because he is extremely busy at work or with his family life. Try to make the most of the time that you have together by communicating and having real conversations. Put away your phones and really connect with one another again and things should improve.
It is likely that you should end a relationship if you have tried everything you could think of to improve the situation but you have both lost interest in trying to resolve things. If you no longer care about spending time with your partner, it is not a good sign and it is probably time to walk away. Don’t ignore the situation as your happiness is more important than that.
Different people have different emotional needs in a relationship. It is important to communicate with your partner to ensure that both of your needs are being met. Spending quality time with each other is important in every relationship. It is also vital that you work on your communication if you do not feel you can be completely open about your needs with your partner.
To Sum Up…
Feeling neglected and lonely in a relationship can be extremely painful. It is first important to communicate with your partner about how you feel and try and implement some changes together. Also, consider whether short-term situations are causing this feeling and try to plan for the future instead of being wrapped up in what is going on right now.
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As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn't an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.