Is there a guy in your life that you have always seen as just a friend, but it now feels like things are changing between you and you are now wondering if you are falling in love with him. Is this guy the closest person to you in your life, does he know all of your secrets, then you may already be close to falling in love with him, but how do you know for sure?
Are you wondering if you are falling in love with your best friend, but worried about ruining your friendship at the same time?
- 1 Is It Bothering You?
- 2 Let’s Weigh In: Am I In Love With My Best Friend?
- 2.1 1. What would a romantic relationship with your best friend look like?
- 2.2 2. Do you just want what you cannot have?
- 2.3 3. Is your attraction more than physical?
- 2.4 4. Do you trust him?
- 2.5 5. Will it ruin your friendship as best friends?
- 2.6 6. Does he make you happy?
- 2.7 7. Do you call and text him all the time?
- 2.8 8. You care about him.
- 2.9 9. You know everything about him.
- 2.10 10. You can talk to him about everything.
- 2.11 11. You still get excited to see him.
- 2.12 12. You think about him all of the time.
- 2.13 13. You’re jealous over him.
- 2.14 14. You text him when you are drunk.
- 2.15 15. He excites you.
- 2.16 16. Your family and friends adore him.
- 2.17 17. You find yourself staring at him.
- 2.18 18. You can see a future with him.
- 3 To Finish With…
Is It Bothering You?
To become best friends with someone requires you to be vulnerable and open up to them. Your friendship may start innocently, you may be really similar, know everything else about each other but now wonder if you are in love with him.
If you have recently become aware of your feelings towards him, you are probably wondering whether you are mistaken or if not whether you should tell him. You may be really worried that if you tell him you are in love with him it may ruin your friendship.
Questioning the feelings you have for your best friend is common, but you have to think carefully if you want a romantic relationship with him. You also have to be open to losing your friendship if things don’t work out romantically with him.
Here is how to know for sure whether you are in love with your best friend.
Let’s Weigh In: Am I In Love With My Best Friend?
1. What would a romantic relationship with your best friend look like?
Think about the life that your best friend currently has and use this information to try and figure out what kind of a romantic relationship you would have with him. Has he recently broken up with an ex and may be looking for a rebound relationship? Are they dating a few people at the same time right now? Do you know that they are looking for something serious?
Consider whether his relationship aspirations match yours. Think about this for both of our sakes. You may think you like your best friend, you may even know that you love him, but if your relationship desires don’t match then you are risking losing your friendship for a relationship that inevitably won’t work out.
2. Do you just want what you cannot have?
Make sure to think about this before you rush into a romantic relationship with your best friend. Remember the phrase “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Even before mentioning the situation to him, make sure you really do love him and you do not just want what you can’t have.
If you see him as off-limits you may just love the idea of a relationship with him rather than loving him as a person. It is important to put everything into perspective and to figure out for sure what it is that you are feeling about your best friend. Figure out whether you do really love this person or if you just like the idea because it seems off-limits.
3. Is your attraction more than physical?
You may know that you are physically attracted to your best friend but you need to know if you are emotionally attracted to him too. Make sure that you are not merely acting on a physical attraction but on a more emotional, intimate level. Think about whether you can actually see a deep emotional connection forming if you go into a relationship with him.
If your attraction to him is just physical then a relationship between you may not last very long. If you think you are in love with your best friend. Think carefully about what you really want in a significant other, as a physical attraction will likely not be enough for a successful relationship, and you may risk losing your friendship with your best friend.
4. Do you trust him?
If you are in love with your best friend you need to carefully consider if you can trust him enough to be in a relationship with him. Has he ever done anything before to break your trust or doubt his loyalty to you? If he has, he may not be right for you in a romantic relationship, as you need to be able to completely trust your significant other.
It is important to consider trust in this way before you act on your love for this person. This is an important thing to think about if you think “I love my best friend .”
5. Will it ruin your friendship as best friends?
If you are in love with this person, are you sure that your friendship is strong enough to survive if he tells you that he doesn’t feel the same way as you? If you tell your friend that you love him, but he tells you that he does not feel this way too, will this completely ruin your friendship with this person forever?
Consider whether telling him how you are feeling is something that you could both survive if this person does not feel the same way. If you find out that this person feels the same way about you, then you need to talk about both the benefits and possible negatives if this person became your significant other.
You have to be ready to deal with your friend telling you that he does not feel the same way about you. You may also have to accept that your friend needs time to think about what you just told him. This is an important thing to think about when in love with best friend.
6. Does he make you happy?
This is the most important thing to think about if you are in love with a friend. How does he make you feel every day? Does he encourage you to be the best version of yourself? Does he always support you and have your best interests at heart? Do you and your friend really make each other happy?
If he does truly make you happy and he helps you be the best version of you, this may be a friendly love. If you decide to take the jump and see if this best friend love is real, make sure that you are sure about how you feel. Otherwise, you may always wonder if your friendship with this guy could have turned into something more.
7. Do you call and text him all the time?
In friendship, it is normal to be in contact with your friends a lot. However, if you are texting your best friend first thing in the morning and the last thing at night, there may be something more to your friendship. If you are constantly in contact with this guy then you may be in love with him. If he is the person that you tell everything to, you may love him.
If something exciting happens in your life, is he the first person that you call to tell him all about it? If you think “I’m in love with my best friend” and you are calling him, texting him and contacting him all of the time, you may be in love with him.
8. You care about him.
Do you care about this friend more than anyone else in your life, then you may be in love with him. Do you care about him being happy more than you do about anybody else? Will you do anything in your power to make him happy? Then you are likely in love with this guy.
9. You know everything about him.
If you know absolutely everything about this guy then you may love him. Do you know all of the secrets that no one else knows? Can you even read his mind? If you know everything there is to know about this guy, then you likely love your friend.
If he has told you all of his secrets, all of his childhood stories and his biggest fears in life then he is likely more than just a friend to you.
10. You can talk to him about everything.
If you feel completely comfortable with him and you can tell him absolutely everything, then it is likely that you love your best friend. If you can share really personal secrets with him and be completely open and vulnerable with him then you may love him. You know that he will understand and support you with anything.
If he is the person that you go to when you are upset, then you likely have really strong loving feelings for this guy. If something bad happens to you, and it is his shoulder that you cry on, it is likely that you are more than friends.
11. You still get excited to see him.
If you are at a party and he is the first person you look around for, he may mean more to you than just a friend. If you don’t care about spending your time with anyone but him, you may like him more than just as a friend.
12. You think about him all of the time.
If you constantly find yourself thinking about his guy and everything you do reminds you of him, he surely means a lot to you. If you find yourself thinking about this guy all day, every day then he likely means more to you than a friend. If everything that you do reminds you of him then you may be falling for him.
13. You’re jealous over him.
If you get jealous when this guy talks about going on dates with other people, then you likely like him more than just a friend. Do you hate it when he talks about other girls that he fancies? Does it make you feel jealous when you know that he is on a date with someone? Maybe you even wish that he was on a date with you.
If you are jealous of this guy you likely have feelings for him.
14. You text him when you are drunk.
If he is the first person that you text when you are drunk you likely have feelings for him. People often say that your true feelings come out when you are drunk.
15. He excites you.
If when you hug this guy you feel tension and excitement between you, there may be more going on between you that just a friendship. If a casual hug gives you butterflies it is likely that you have fallen for your best friend.
16. Your family and friends adore him.
If your family and friends adore him, and you always talk to them about him it is likely that you do have feelings for him. If they know everything about you because you are always talking about him to them, then it is very likely that you have loving feelings for him.
17. You find yourself staring at him.
If you catch yourself staring at him or looking at his face for a bit too long, you likely see him as more than a friend. If you catch yourself looking at him while you are having a conversation with him you may see him as more than a friend.
18. You can see a future with him.
If you can picture yourself spending your future with this guy then you likely have feelings for him. If you can see yourself spending the rest of yourself with this guy, you can picture yourself marrying him or even having children with him then it is likely that you are falling for him.
If you want to spend all of your time with this guy and you can see yourself spending your life with this guy then you are probably falling for him.
To Finish With…
If you think that you are falling for your best friend, you may be wondering what to do next. Hopefully, this article has helped you to figure out what to do. Let us know your own experiences and share this article!
As hopeless romantic I struggled tremendously in my love life. After many years of searching, trial & error, and countless failed relationships, I finally found my Mr. Right. It wasn’t an easy road, but one that has taught me an incredible amount about the workings of relationships between men and women, and this is what I hope to share through my writing on this blog.